(Closed) First look versus waiting

posted 7 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

FH and I are going to do this, blatantly stolen from Miss Hyena…

The Hands Around the Corner

I would be all about a first look, but FH is not, so this is our compromise!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

We did not do a first look and I wouldn’t have had it any other way!!  There is nothing like that feeling when you open the doors and he sees you for the first time!!!

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I did a first look and they are my FAVOURITE pics of the entire wedding day.

I didn’t have to hurry because it was always in the plan of the day.

And as a side note walking down the aisle was still a spectacular moment. I still could not hear or see anyone but him it was surreal. The first look cannot take away from the moment when you walk towards the man you are about to marry and you get awesome pics – I think it’s the best of both worlds.

Post # 7
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Helper bee

I am not doing a first look. Maybe I will be nervous but I’m ok with that. We will get as many pics out of the way beforehand and then yes we will miss our cocktail hour to take pics of the 2 of us but I wouldn’t be eating during cocktail hour anyway.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

We’re not doing one. I like the anticipation and surprise of him seeing me walk down the aisle for the first time. A first look before the ceremony was never an option for us. I like the tradition aspect of his first look at me being at the ceremony.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

We’re doing a first look, and I’m super excited about it.  The reasons are as follows:

1.  More time for pictures before ceremony, so we get to enjoy cocktail hour with all our out-of-town friends/relatives who came for the wedding

2.  We’re spending the night together before anyway, rehearsing that morning, and we have to meet up to sign the ketubah.  So I’m not worried about the whole “not seeing each other” thing, because we’re breaking that several times over.

3.  We (and Fiance especially) tend to be pretty private about our feelings.  I’m going to cry when I see him, and he’s going to be amazed, and I want to be able to have that moment in private, where we can kiss and revel and relax, instead of during the ceremony with a hundred people watching, when we have to immediately perform.

I totally get why people wait, and I’m sure it’s an amazing moment.  But I don’t think our first look will be any less amazing, and I think we’ll still feel excited all over again when I walk towards him.  For the reasons above, however, a first look makes sense for us.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We’re not doing a first look… He wouldn’t mind us taking pics beforehand, but I really want the first time he sees me to be when I’m coming down the aisle.  I want that 100% surprise reaction during our ceremony rather than beforehand.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m having my first look on the roof where my Fiance proposed. It’s been a special spot for us through out our relationship, AND it overlooks the church! I can’t imagine a better place for us to see each other for the first time on our wedding day. It’s such a personal moment, I want us to be able to take it in and not have to begin the wedding ceremony immediately.  It’ll be just the photographers and us, and I will approach him with him watching me, to give an “aisle” effect.

I have it planned into the day, so I won’t be rushing to get to it. We’ll probably do a few pitures after the first look but before the ceremony. Getting some of them out of the way will *hopefully* afford us 20 minutes of “down time” just to ourselves after the main pictures but before the reception begins.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I debating this right now. I always said I didn’t want to do it because I want the first moment we see each other to be when I’m about to walk do the aisle. But in the last few days, I’ve been thinking about being able to take most of the pictures before hand would help us not to miss alot of the reception. So I’m undecided right now.

Post # 14
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

We did it and I’m so happy we did.  We had time to take a bunch of awesome pictures, didn’t have to rush after the wedding and it was great to have some time together.  Our ceremony started at 6:30 and we started pictures before at 4 until about 6.

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

MY Fiance and I are doing a first look and I couldn’t be happier. We basically want most of our pictures done before the ceremony. We really want that extra time at cocktail hour to be with our family and friends (some of our family are from other countries and we haven’t seen them in years). 

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Until about 2 weeks ago I was pretty anti-first look, I guess I thought it wasn’t “traditional” enough, etc. But due to some family drama and the fact that we and our church actually prefers this, Fiance and I will be walking down the aisle together during the processional. So basically, we’ll be having a first look whether we want to or not! And it turns out I’m really excited about it–it seems like such a calming and sweet thing to do before the ceremony. Fiance is happy too–he was so queasy about all those people seeing him look at me for the first time. If you can hang on 2.5 weeks I’ll let you know how it turns out!

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