First look vs Aisle

posted 2 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
443 posts
Helper bee

I really enjoyed our first look. It gave us a special moment just to be together, just us, before the ceremony (although the bridal party was looking on from a distance). I cried.

Post # 3
9862 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

We did a first look. I have zero regrets. It’s one of my favorite memories from that day and the pictures are great! Walking down the aisle was still very special. But it was so great to have that first time we saw each other be a moment to just cherish the moment and talk with each other. Logistically it also made the day run more smoothly.

My advice is to just to what felt right for you and your fiancé. I always loved the idea of a first look. If having your partner see you for the first time as you walk down the aisle is super important to you then do that. Both are valid choices.

Post # 4
6664 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

Why do you “have” to? Many photographers will try to pressure you into it because it makes things easier for them, but there’s no reason you must do it. We did not, and I do not at all regret having the moment of him seeing me for the first time being when I walked down the aisle. I wouldn’t have had it any other way. That’s not to say that many people don’t enjoy their “first look”, but if you don’t want things that way, then don’t do them that way!

Post # 5
3452 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

I’ve noticed that there isn’t much regret on WB whether its a first look or aisle look. People are generally happy either way. A first look would have been nice to get a lot of photos out of the way but Darling Husband was completely against it. I’m 100% pleased with that choice but I doubt I would have regretted a first look.

Post # 6
7716 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

We didn’t do a first look because we wanted to see each other for the first time when I came down the aisle. It was never even up for debate. We had no regrets. It did make our timeline for photos after the ceremony more cramped, but wasn’t a huge deal. 

I think whatever you choose, you will be happy with bee. 

Post # 9
3452 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

msteacherbee29 :  100% honesty. If there wasn’t photographic evidence I wouldn’t have a clue how he looked when he first saw me. But I totally remember that he kissed my forehead to calm my nerves and rubbed my hand throughout the ceremony. 😄 He said he nearly cried a couple times but he has a poker face so heck if I knew. lol Whatever you decide will be great, just make sure its a decision you want.

Post # 10
513 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

For what it is worth, we did not regret the “First Look” at all. We got some amazing pictures, and when we got done we all got to go have a cocktail together before the ceremony. Some of the best pics of the wedding party together were taken after the first look! 

Post # 11
50 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

msteacherbee29 :  We are getting married next October, and we have plans to do a first look. I’m running the wedding myself basically and it doesn’t make sense for me to hide before the wedding. I have a lot of anxiety any way….so idk if I could handle waiting! 

Post # 12
166 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

I would have liked to do a first look, but my Darling Husband was a million percent against it lol. So I had to do the traditional thing of hiding with one of my bridesmaids in a little room the venue had. Not what I would have chosen, but it made it extra special for him to first see me walking down the aisle. I can’t imagine why anyone would regret doing a first look.  🙂

Post # 13
24 posts

We did a first look – it was dark after our ceremony and I wanted to enjoy cocktail hour, not schlep around the city doing pictures.  I didn’t care much about the first look itself, but I loved having a little bit of quiet time just us and the bridal party before all the craziness of the actual wedding began.  Especially the pictures we took of just my husband and I… those were special moments for us.

I still remember seeing my husband as I walked down the aisle.  It didn’t take away from that moment.

Post # 14
936 posts
Busy bee

We loved doing a first look mainly becuase it gave us more time together during the day.  With having a 5pm wedding, we wanted to spend more of our day together.  Our first look was at 2pm, so those extra three hours of memories is so worth it 🙂

Post # 15
2186 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

msteacherbee29 :  just did a first look on Saturday and loved it. I seriously felt sooooo much better after seeing him. There was so much stress for me during the day that finally seeing him and sharing that moment before the ceremony brought me so much calm and peace. 

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