Post # 1
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Newbee
So Im considering doing a first look, i would love to do it but Fiance isnt so sure, he wants the first time he sees me to be when i am walking down the aisle,
So my question is was it stilll as emotional walking down the aisle after a “first look”?
And if anyone could share some photos of both that would be great, especially if i could see the reactions of a first look and the aisle!
Thanks so much, hopefully this will help.
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
Oh definitely. The emotions felt during the walk were not effected at all by the first look for my husband and I. The feelings felt were due completely to the fact that it was THE moment of walking down toward him, not the moment of seeing me and how I looked. He was certainly more emotional during the walk down the isle than turning around for the first look.
Post # 4
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Helper bee
I was also torn, but there are some things you can still do to surprise him.
I am planning on wearing a birdcage veil for the reception and first look, and he thinks that is my only veil. But I got a long traditional one to wear for the ceremony that is a surprise. So when he sees me walk doen the aisle I will look more “bridal”.
Post # 5
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Bumble bee
We’re now planning a “first look” and to do most if our photos before our ceremony. Originally we both thought we would see each other at the aisle as a first look, but my Fiance was convinced by a friend that “first look” photoare a smart idea, and our photographer confirmed it.
So try the married friend / photographer to reassure your Fiance if he’s undecided.
Post # 6
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Helper bee
I certainly would never do a first look, whats the point!! Wait until that special moment when you walk down the aisle.
Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
I cried during our first look, we both cried when I walked down the aisle. IMO there’s a difference between seeing eachother dressed up and seeing eachother when you are about to get married.
Post # 8
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Helper bee
The emotions of walking down the aisle to your husband were, for me, completely UNrelated to him seeing me in my outfit for the first time. It was about the realness and specialness of us joining together.
We did a first look shoot, I don’t have pictures yet, which he thought was silly so it was less emotional, although still a fun thing to do. The real emotion definitely didn’t kick in until I the violins started playing and my dad and I walked in the door. It was wonderful, I wouldn’t have done it any other way.
Post # 9
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Busy bee
I love the idea of a first look. We get some private time to just enjoy one another, I highly doubt we will get that the rest of the day!
Plus we won’t have to rush photos as much, we can get a lot of them out of the way pre-ceremony and have time to mingle with our guests during the cocktail hour. This, in turn, will also allow us to get some nice golden light (aka hour before sunset) pictures later on because we won’t be having to rush around to all of our guests to make sure we got to everyone all night!
It’s a win/win imho. I know we’re still going to be grinning like idiots during the aisle walk, seeing each other before hand doesn’t change that.
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Busy bee
Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
We did the tradition aisle. I’m glad I did it that way, it was so amazing to have everyone looking at me and look down and lock eyes with him. He met me halfway down the aisle and the entire moment was unforgettable.
Post # 13
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Honey Beekeeper
@bridetobe7844: thats exactly the point.. its the momnt that is special. the moment of walking down the isle to be married… not the moment of seeing you all dressed up, that’s just kind of a side bonus. You could probably change into a jeans and sweat shirt, and the moment of knowing you were walking toward him to be married would still be special.
Post # 14
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Sugar bee
I think it’s just a matter of taste between tradition and intimacy. =) Both are great reasons. Not sure I’m liking the whole judgemental thing on both sides that I’m hearing.
Post # 15
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Helper bee
We did a first look. It was a great moment and we loved it. And when he saw me walking down the aisle…we both were getting choked up. He had to even stop while saying the vows from getting so choked up. But it was the vows that really got to him because that’s what that moment is really about…what you’re doing…getting married. So I don’t feel like it took anything away from us at all. We had a special moment just us, go the pictures outside we wanted, and were then able to spend almost the whole cocktail hour with our guests. I would never change a thing with how we did it.
Post # 16
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Newbee
I always thought I wanted the first time my fiance to first see me walking down the aisle on our wedding day, but after seeing some brides’ first look photos I decided I definitely want to do a first look! Although I do think seeing your bride/groom for the first time on the aisle must be a wonderful experience, I personally want the moment to be private and intimate, for just us. (I’m sure those on the aisle share an intimacy as well though)! It will also give us time to capture some really wonderful, candid private shots (especially of the look on our faces) and give us more time to socialize with guests after the ceremony. That’s just my opinion anyway, I’m not very traditional 🙂