(Closed) First Look…Should we do it?

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Post # 3
3539 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Im not doing it. There is soo much to do on the day already that I really dont see the point. The photographer is going to capture the first look when im walking down the aisle…. and then… hes going to have photos of us together afterwards so I really dont see the point. It sounds romantic, but Id honestly think I would have interferance from bridal party them wanting to come look!

But each to their own!

Post # 4
1232 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

We’re doing a first look! I want to EAT and get right into having fun after the ceremony I don’t want to be stuck taking pictures forever while our guests are all having fun, but that’s just me ๐Ÿ™‚
So, we’re going to do the majority of the photos (us and bp) before the ceremony and then just do a few more with family and such. I’ve seen tons of romantic “first look” photos that helped me make my decision. I think it will be a nice picture to have forever ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 5
5388 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

We are doing just the bridal party pictures first. Then after the wedding we will get 1 big group photo of all of us. Then us, our parents, and me with the men, him with the ladies, grandparents and then we will be done. Hopefully they can get the special guests (aunts, uncles, and grandparents) before the wedding too.

We are looking forward to seeing each other for the first time that year when I walk down the aisle.

Post # 6
804 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

We’re not doing it. Sounds cheesy but I’m really looking forward to that moment when the music’s playing and I see my fella all cute in his suit and he sees me as I’m walking down the aisle. Can’t WAIT for that moment! Just seems that it’d be a bit underwhelming to do it any other way! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 7
7431 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I would do it! It makes you less nervous as you walk down the aisle, and plus you get to see each other without the whole wedding guest list there! It also makes for great pics, especially if you don’t want to miss the party and won’t have a cocktail hour

Post # 8
1078 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

We did the first look, and it was the best part of the day. There were many pros to it:

* The first “look” is more intimate and less overwhelming when done alone before the ceremony, instead of in front of everyone during the ceremony.

* Helped calm our nerves & butterflies

* Much more time (and better) photo ops

* It was our moment alone together – which you won’t get, once the ceremony and reception are under way

Post # 9
4567 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

We’re doing it for many of the same reasons PG said, plus it’ll give me some pictures of me without my makeup being a big hysterical mess cause of the ceremony!

Post # 10
1523 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

We’re doing a first look!

A first look makes the most sense for our wedding because our ceremony and reception will be in the same location in the late afternoon so taking a ton of pictures after the ceremony makes no sense. I have also always hated when the dinner is delayed an hour or something because the bridal couple is taking a million pictures, so we won’t be doing that to our guests.

I also like that the first look will provide us with a few moments by ourselves before the ceremony. I know that it will be really special and we can have a few moments to ourselves.

I am honestly looking forward to walking down the aisle as well. I don’t think the first look will take away from the moment when I walk down the aisle because I know that we will both be emotional and looking at eachother then too!

Post # 11
1508 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I wish we had done one. We didn’t want to see each other before the ceremony. I think it would have helped us in our pictures since their would have been less people around to watch and make us nervous. Also we would have been able to get outside pictures which we couldn’t do after the ceremony since it had started to pour.

Post # 12
1313 posts
Bumble bee


For several reasons.. In order of importance to me..

1. I really want that special, intimate moment that you just can’t have while everyone is staring at you walking down the aisle.

2. I am super-emotional and this will get some jitters out beforehand. Hopefully I’ll cry a little less ๐Ÿ™‚

3. Photography reasons.

Post # 13
6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

we’re doing it. we’re jewish, so we have a ketubah signing ceremony before the actual ceremony so we will be seeing each other anyway, so i figured why not get pictures before anyway if we’ll be seeing each other? and after thinking about it, i’m so glad we are! not only for extra picture time (i was just in my friend’s wedding and we were sooo rushed for pictures, she barely got any of us girls and was very upset about that), but i don’t want to see him for the first time in front of everybody. i want to be able to actually talk to him and spend time with him, and i know it will help calm the nerves. the plan is to not see him until then… but we’ll see if i can even deal with that.

Post # 14
32 posts
  • Wedding: May 2009

I did a First Look and am very glad we did!  

From a logistics stand point, it just makes sense.  Getting the portraits done earlier meant my makeup was fresher and my hair was perfect.  Also, we had an evening ceremony so we knew we didn’t want to rush through pictures to get to cocktail hour and dinner.  And we knew our bridal party and families would also be pretty excited for cocktail hour, so having all the portraits done early meant they were able to enjoy the celebration more.

Our photogs made sure our First Look was private and very special and I don’t think it at all took away from the experience of first look down the aisle. I have pictures of both and can tell you the reactions and the emotions were just as amazing! If anything, I’d say having First Look done made the aisle-moment even better because I was less stressed and was just ready to take in the moment and enjoy it.  

Post # 15
2207 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

We did it, and like Miss Pinot said, it was the best part of our day.  There was no rushing for photos since we had 3 hours before the ceremony, we got to enjoy our full cocktail hour and spend more time with the guests, and it was the ONLY alone time we had together all day.  Seriously, yo are NOT EVER ALONE on your wedding day.  

Also – regardless of how much you see eachother prior to the ceremony, the moment when you see eachother from the ends of the aisle is overwhelmingly special.  Nothing can take away the moment that you are about to be married.  I dont think that moment was any less special for us, if anything it was more exciting because we had spent the whole day together waiting for that exact moment.  I’d recommend it 1000 times over

Post # 16
114 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

We’re definitely doing it. For me, the worst part of weddings is waiting for the bride and groom to finish their photos for the reception to start. One hour is not enough to get all the essential photos. 

I know how nervous and excited I’m going to be that day so I’m hoping that seeing him beforehand will calm me down. I also just want that one intimate moment with him before the craziness begins. 

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