(Closed) First New Year’s Eve as a Married couple… need help :(

posted 6 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

That is an odd excuse to not want to go to Vegas – because a party he was invited to is catered – really!??!

I know my Fiance would choose Vegas over a house party anyday but I guess everyone is different. I also see how it would be hard to be away from each other for your first NYE together but you could also think of it as you will have 40+ years of NYE together to look forward to in the coming years. I would talk to him and see what the underlying issue is – because Vegas for NYE would be EPIC!!! I say go no matter what or you will regret it.

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper

This will be our first new years together in 4 years (but who’s counting?). My husband has had to work every other year.

Hmmm, let’s see…

Vegas or cold cuts and pasta salad… Yeah, go to Vegas.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I think it’s okay to have your own things to do and not constantly be joined at the hip.  He is probably feeling a little bummed that you two won’t be together (it may be a big event in his mind since it will be the first NYE married), but he may feel better if y’all sit down and have a nice calm talk about it. I say go! I think it would be tons of fun! Wish I could..

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Go to Vegas– you invited him, so it’s not your fault that he won’t be with you this NYE.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I say go, because he was okay with it at first.  He should have been honest with you in the first place – before you booked the trip.  However, I’m going to suggest in the future, don’t plan to be away from your husband on significant holidays unless it is absolutely necessary.  DH and I do our own thing as well, but I think holidays have more meaning and are more special than just an ordinary Friday night.  IMO, this is a lesson for both of you.

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper

It sounds like you and Darling Husband are very similar to how me and Darling Husband operate.  We are very independent socially and give each other room to do what we want.  We tell each other when it’s something we expect them to attend, or give each other the ‘pass’ card if it’s not important.  Like you, I typically will do more things with Darling Husband than the other way around – because I want to be WITH him.

That said – I DO think there is something different with NYE.  It sounds like it’s important to him that you two be together.  It’s unfortunate that he waited this long to tell you.  He should have figure it out before he gave you the green light – but he didn’t.  The point is he wants to spend it WITH you.  

In my mind, my relationship with Darling Husband trumps all other relationships and experiences.  

If I were in your shoes, I would seriously consider cancelling the trip.  

….Or, would it be possible for him to join the Vegas group?  or does he expect you to cancel and hang out at home?   

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

So – did you go to Vegas on your own or ?

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