(Closed) First night alone in new place – were you hyper vigilant?

posted 5 years ago in Home
Post # 3
6359 posts
Bee Keeper

The only times I’ve ever felt like that were after watching good horror movies, so I strongly don’t recommend it… I suggest watching a good comedy though, it puts me in the opposite mood 🙂

Post # 4
1320 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - NH

I’ve been there!  I grew up in a city and when I moved into a small town in the woods in my early 20s it took me about a month or so to get used to the random noises.  Give it time 🙂

Post # 5
4337 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

A new place always makes me a bit jumpy until I get used to the sounds of the building and the area around it.

Post # 6
132 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@Deejayelle:  When my SO and I first moved in together, he was working nights 2-3 times a week. At first, even the dog was restless. She knew something wasn’t right and that someone was missing from bedtime. She would sit at the bedroom door and just stare at it. I had trouble falling asleep or staying asleep because every little noise scared me. It really didn’t help that our apartment is on a street with several shady looking characters hanging around all the time. The only thing that helped me fall asleep was to turn the TV on and listen to it a little louder than normal to drown out the sounds I was hearing, or do the same with some music.

I *may* have slept with a bedside lamp on once or twice but would never admit that to anyone else! haha

I hope it gets better for you!

Post # 7
9955 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Ya I think it is pretty normal for most folks, it takes some to time to truly “feel at home” in a new place and get accustomed to all its quirks.

More so as you say if it is a stand alone home, and each little new noise causes you to wonder “what was that ?”

As I told a Bee earlier this week, I’ve found many of these fears of staying alone can be allieviated by getting a security system… real peace of mind for not a lot of money.  AND the bonus is you’ll save on Insurance.

Something to consider, especially so if your new situation means you’ll be spending some nights alone.

Hope this helps,


Post # 8
2196 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

Yeah I’m always like that. I’m a pretty paranoid person, I watch a lot of ID channel. I get jumpy anytime I’m home alone acutally, which is sad.

Post # 9
182 posts
Blushing bee


Yes, everytime I move it takes me awhile to get adjusted. I get freaked out at night, and have a really hard time sleeping in places im not used to. When I am alone in a new place, i just drink a couple glasses of wine and then feel much better and sleep great. Its not a great coping mechanism, but works like a charm until you get used to your new place! 

Post # 10
12248 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’ve been living in the same place for almost two years, and whenever Darling Husband leaves on business I still get jumpy and sleep on the couch!

Post # 11
7219 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’m always jumpy and parnoid when I’m alone for the night. Like, check all the closets and showers paranoid. 

 @BrandNewBride:  I sleep on the couch too when Darling Husband is gone! I’m not sure why exactly it’s better than our bed but it’s somehow just better than trying to sleep in our bed.


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