Post # 16
My baby is due in mid Nov and I’m wondering the same thing! In theory I’d love to take baby out in the world places pretty early on, but living in the frigid midwest and that being flu season, I’m thinking it might not be a great idea. And while I think I’d be okay leaving baby with a trusted sitter for a couple hours here and there, it’s one of those things I just can’t anticipate how I’ll really feel about until she’s here. Like pretty much all of parenthood, lol.
PS glad to hear from you and so happy your pregnancy is going well! We’re on the home stretch!
Post # 17
if its a potluck type thing, I’d expect you to bring the baby if you came (and wouldn’t judge you if you didn’t). I host lots of potlucks and have lots of friends with kids.. I would already set up the guest room to be nursing friendly, knowing my friends would need to duck out to nurse. They also always left pretty early too–babies are hard!
I don’t have my kid yet either but the advice I’ve been given when it comes to trying to plan for what to do when baby is here (I’m due Nov 22) is: just make sure your plan is flexible. So much depends on the baby and what’s going on that week.
Post # 18
Yeah I think you’ll just have to play it by ear. I’m due in early October so I’m thinking about this stuff too.
I’m planning on going to our work Christmas party with my ~8 week old, unless I know someone we work with is sick. Those parties are fairly small and low-key, and I’ll just baby-wear him and only stay for an hour or two. Unless he’s a crying nutcase, of course! Then I’ll stay home with the little monster 😀
I don’t think I’d want to go to a wedding ceremony and reception without my little tiny baby… that’s just a long time. And at the height of flu season, I’m not sure I’d want to go WITH him either. Is it a really important wedding?
Post # 19
This is a very personal decision and will also depend a lot on your baby’s temperament. We didn’t leave ours for an evening until she was 7.5 months old. But we also don’t have family in the area, so that was a big part of it. Babies between 4 and 12 week also often go through fussy phases where they just want to cluster feed all evening, so that migh be an especially challenging time of day to get away. But you also might feel totally fine with it. I would avoid making any firm commitments until the baby is here and you know how you feel.
Post # 20
At that age baby will still very much be in the fourth trimester so being close to you will be a means of survival for them. If your baby is happy to be looked after by a familiar face (grandparent etc) then that would be a bonus for you but personally I would expect baby would want to stay with you. If you do wish someone to watch the baby then I’d do it near to where you are.
Baby wearing would be a great way to keep baby close to you, giving them the closeness but also gives you some freedom
obviously all this is based on whether or not you are wishing to be out and about too.
Post # 21
There is nothing wrong or inappropriate about leaving baby for a few hours once you feel up to it. It also will depend on a few things though…if you are breast feeding, odds are 4 weeks old or so you won’t be able to leave baby for more than 2 or 3 hours. They can’t go very long between feedings, and alot of babies aren’t really on a schedule by then anyways. If you have an established pumping/bottle feeding routine by then it may be possible but still you may need to factor in needing to pump at some point depending on how long you’ll be gone. As for the wedding in January when baby is around 2 months it would probably be a lot easier to leave baby for a few hours, but I don’t think anyone would think it’s weird at all if you bring baby with you !
Post # 22
I personally wouldn’t bring a one month old baby during flu season to a holiday party. I would wait and see how you feel when your baby is born. I thought I wouldn’t want to get out for awhile, but being a mom is just SO hard and completely changes you, and I was kind of dying to get out the house for a couple of hours. We went on our first “date” when she was 1.5 weeks old (it was just a 1.5 to go eat dinner, and run an errand)- it was short but absolutely marvelous to be able to eat with 2 hands and not in shifts. You need to take time for yourself to reboot.
Post # 23
I’d play it by ear, as PPs suggested, but this is very much a YMMV situation. It’s cold/ flu season. The tone of a potluck is very different from the tone of a black tie/ cocktail affair. The venue might be draftier than you like, there may not be a quiet/ warm place if you need a quiet moment with the baby, etc.
I’d still definitely RSVP “yes” to the parties especially if they’re close enough or casual enough to leave early with a fussy baby or because you’re freaking out the baby at home. Good luck!
Post # 24
- Wedding: March 2016 - Surfer\'s Beach, Grand Cayman
Honestly I think you’ll have to wait and see how you feel closer to the time. All babies are different and you just won’t know how you’ll feel. I didn’t feel comfortable leaving my kiddo until she was almost 2 years old honestly (that’s probably on the extreme end but just to show you how you never know how you’ll feel).
Post # 25
I went back to work after 4 weeks. It’ll be fine. Go enjoy yourself for a few hours!!!