(Closed) First photo shoot a somewhat fail :( I’m a mess

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
105 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

That’s understandable πŸ™

Can we see some photos? I’d love to see that beautiful coat and scarf!

Post # 4
2157 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Unfortunately, this is one of the problems with friendors – they aren’t being paid so why should they go the extra mile.  

I completely understand your disappointment.  Engagement photos are an exciting thing!  Are you worried that you won’t get another day with snow?  If so, is there any way to get the friend out tomorrow or very soon to redo them?

Post # 5
620 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

At least you CAN  get a redo. For people who had to pay for their photographer, if we didn’t like the pics that we got that day then we would have to pay to get them redone on another day. But you said that you got some nice pics today and that you will also get another chance to get some more for free. I think you should stick with your friend because you will never get another chance with a pro unless you pay. But I think you need to be clear about where you want the pics to be taken. And you can always wear the same outfit both times. I think you’re just sad right now and that you will get the pics that you want later on.

Post # 7
887 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

We had my husband’s uncle do our wedding photos. I had a lot of misgivings about it but didn’t want to ruffle any feathers. The pictures turned out horrible, we don’t even display them. I really really wish that I had hired a professional! It’s definitely one of my biggest regrets πŸ™ I think it’s awesome you’re having engagement ones done so you can make sure your friendor’s style matches your vision for the wedding. Hopefully they turn out great! If not, I really hope you make a change!

Post # 8
10366 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

This is one of those situations where I’m going to say: you get what you pay for! I actually lived in Brookline by Coolidge Corner for 3 years (moved 5 months ago) and there are some gorgeous parks there. Try to rescedule, and schedule the shoot for 3 or 3:30 along the river. You’ll have better golden light at that time (since it’s dark by like 5 this time of year). The Mass Ave bridge would also be a good spot (but it does get quite windy out there!). The Boston skyline is kind of far away from the Cambridge side of the river – it’ll appear more dominant in the frame if you’re closer in on the bridge.

Post # 9
671 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’d be upset too. Remember though that you have a whole wedding to go through and you will have LOTS of pictures them. Just make sure you arrange it that way. Also, you don’t have to have the pictures done now, just because the are called “engagement” photos. You’re not gonna look any different between now and your wedding day (besides a little more done up) so to me it’s really kind of a waste of time and money. I would save the money to have some done at milestones in your life together instead of back to back.

Post # 10
408 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I would be upset…but I also agree with PP that you get what you pay for Undecided Hopefully if this guy doesn’t mesh with what you want you can hire someone to do pictures for you…this is your wedding day, you should be able to have pictures you love and are proud of!

Post # 11
413 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Hire a professional for your enagagement shot and wear the same outfit and also hire them for the wedding day and save yourself the heartache.

Tell them what photos you want.

Post # 13
4518 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

You’re not being a brat. 

I think this is one of the risks of having a friendor — he feels comfortable with you, so it sounds like he wasn’t as professional as he would have been if you were strangers. I really think it’s easier having a photographer who is NOT your friend — that way your relationship is strictly business; you can tell him/her exactly what you want, and if that’s not what you get, you don’t have to worry about ruining a friendship if you put your foot down.

Is there any chance you can hire someone else for the wedding?

Post # 14
706 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

A lot of people are saying that your disappointment is because you are hiring a friendor, but from what you’ve posted of the situation, it sounds like 1) weather wasn’t on your side (even a pro obviously couldn’t help with that) and 2) you didn’t do a good job communicating with the photographer about what you wanted from the photo session/what your vision was. Next time, you should talk to the friend directly about what your vision is and any specific shots that you’re interested in, and maybe share other photography in the style that you really like. I imagine that your friend will probably be grateful to have some direction–you should explain this to your husband, and you should take the leadership role of being the photographer’s point person from now on (regardless of whether your husband is closer to him in real life), since you are obviously more opinionated about the photography (understandably). But really: communicate, communicate, communicate. It’s important to communicate with pros, and since he is not a pro, you are going to have to spell out the details of what your expectations are and what his expectations are. It may seem awkward at first, but it will get easier. Next time you book a session, make sure both of you agree on the length of time that you’ll be shooting. Map out a plan for the wedding day (including a timeline of all of the blocked out times for photos and what points of the day you want him to be shooting) and go over in detail the shots that you have to have, as well as the style that you’re interested in. Photographers tend to work best when they have an idea of what their client wants, so as long as you are not overly demanding (he is working for free) and open to his interests, skills, and limitations. The photographer will probably appreciate the input, since I’m sure it’s as awkward for him as it is for you if he doesn’t feel like he knows what you want.

Post # 15
385 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

If there are particular poses or types of shots you want, maybe find examples of them online and show those to him so he knows exactly what it is you’re going for.

Post # 16
505 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Just looked at the weather report..its supposed to be light snow on Sunday! Maybe you can get together really quick if its snowing out.  I know its suppose to warm up this week & they said the snow should be melted by the end of the week. 



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