(Closed) First post: First look, undecided

posted 8 years ago in Traditions
  • poll: What are your thoughts on "First Look"?


    Heck no!

    I wish I had done it!

    I regretted it.

  • Post # 32
    1610 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    Our first (& so far only) photo from our pro photographer was from our first look. I absolutely love it. For us it was one of the most special moments of the entire day and it was awesome because all my nerves and tension melted away as soon as I was in DH’s arms. I’m also glad we got the photos in first because my hair & makeup was fresher and the weather soon turned bad – super windy with some rain. I loved walking down the aisle soaking all my guests in & not having to focus quite so intently on DH’s reaction (not that his reaction wasn’t awesome too!). But yeah, the no.1 reason I’d recommend it is simply how relaxed we both were.

    Post # 33
    2407 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I am not a fan of the first look.  I think the pictures look goofy and contrived.  IDK, if you don’t want it, don’t do it!

    Post # 34
    9778 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL

    We did a first look and I can say it was the best part of the entire day. I loved his reaction seeing me in my dress; I love that we got a few minutes with just the 2 of us to soak it in; I love that our very intimate moments and last “I love yous” before becoming husband and wife are captured.

    It didn’t take away from his expression seeing me walk down the aisle. As a bride, seeing your groom standing up there, watching you walk towards him and commiting your life to him is one of the best feelings ever. I don’t think doing a first look took away from that moment AT ALL.

    I can also say that our first look pics were 100% genuine and nothing about them looks goofy and contrived. Yes, I did the staged “covering his eyes” picture, but after that everything that came was our genuine emotions. 

    Post # 35
    1298 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    We both desperately want a first look. For the alone time. We will need the alone time to survive the rest of the night. We are excited for our wedding but we know it will be exhausting.

    We will have spent the entire week leading up to the wedding enteraining international guests, doing last minute logistics, staying in seperate locations (we’re getting married in my hometown, not where we live)

    Fiance and I are both introverts. When we’re at a party, sometimes we go outside for 5 mintues and just stand alone together. It helps us regroup and re-energize.

    I can’t imagine anything more special to us than being able to spend some time alone (albeit with our super unobtrusive photographer) before being shot out of the crazy wedding cannon. I want to be able to talk to him and hold his hand before we’re on display. Also, I’m not into taking our family photos after we have just gotten married, aka another time that we will want to be alone for a few minutes.

    For what it is worth, we’re not going to do any staged “tapping” pictures, I’m just going to tell him to turn around and look at me.

    For me, it’s a no brainer. But everyone’s situation is different.

    Post # 36
    300 posts
    Helper bee

    Hi chxryl:

    I know I am late in the topic, but

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    babycuddlebee: alternative is AWESOME! “An alternative could be that you exchange love letters prior to the wedding and read them privately, but only separated by a door, with the preacher passing them to you ;) and have a First Read instead and it will gear you up to the Emotion of the wedding and make the aisle even more special.” It is sort of a compromise of both options. I may even do this for myself because I know I definitely DO NOT want to do a First Look and neither does my fiance. However I do appreciate the photos of the bride peeping through the door at the groom after he is dressed and those with the bride and groom holding hands on either side of the door.

    As far as logistics are concerned, my photographer said posed pictures after the ceremony won’t be more than 30 minutes, not to mention we are planning to do a cocktail hour so guests won’t be just sitting around anyway. The plan is to have pictures of the groom and groomsman and me with bm taken seperately before hand as well.

    Post # 37
    1202 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    Honestly, I’m so happy we did it. The reason I wanted it is because I desperately didn’t want to get married in the Catholic church (very common in this area and in our families). Also, I just wanted to go from the ceremony right into the cocktail hour, which I didn’t want to miss. We missed half of it anyway because of everything going on.

    Anyway, now that it’s over I do have something to add. I couldn’t WAIT to see my now DH that day. I loved my morning girl time but I felt like we had both worked so hard on planning this big party and I just couldn’t wait to meet up with him and get everything going. Plus, I was a little anxious and he usually calms me.

    I’m not a super emotional person so it did feel a little awkwad, but it would have been the same down the aisle for me.

    Post # 38
    4114 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    My Fiance are definitely doing a first look. I know a lot of people say it’s “bad luck” or won’t be “as special” if you see your groom ahead of time, but I completely disagree. I think it’s like finding out your baby’s gender at the 20-week scan as opposed to in the delivery room. It doesn’t make it any less surprising and exciting either way. 

    I want a *private* moment with my Fiance before the ceremony. I don’t want to have our first moments in front of everyone. I think it’s a great way to wind down and be really relaxed before going into the ceremony.

    As far as you changing dresses, I find it really unnecessary. Just wear your wedding dress. He’ll still be wowed seeing you coming down the aisle. 

    Post # 39
    1610 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

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    CaroBee:  I loved your comment “I can’t imagine anything more special to us than being able to spend some time alone (albeit with our super unobtrusive photographer) before being shot out of the crazy wedding cannon” … the is the perfect wording!!! DH & I are also introverts and I can tell you all I wanted was to be in his arms and I knew the anxiety would melt away.

    we have more photos back of ours, I adore them.

    Post # 40
    719 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2016

    Would someone, anyone, please tell me what is the “first look”?

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