(Closed) First Post…I am waiting too!!

posted 4 years ago in Waiting
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

Welcome!!!  I know how anxious you must feel right now. I would say try to relax and make it through the holidays. Give him just a little more time and then have that conversation when you feelthr time is right. 

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

dragonfly9:  Wait, you’re not supposed to mention a major life decision relevant to your own relationship and just “let it happen naturally”? You’re both in your 50s, either you both agree to get married or you don’t. 

Post # 4
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Busy bee

This can be tricky!

Yes, sitting on an egagement ring for 7 whole months, whether he either “put it on hold” or actually purchased it, is a long time … especially for a Girlfriend who is anxiously awaiting a proposal.  However, this is *his* time, so don’t spoil it for him.

With that being said, you *do* deserve to know if the relationship is still going anywhere major, like marriage, especially since you two are adults.  So, check in with him and ask if you two are indeed still on the same page, but don’t pressure him to ask you before he was planning to and don’t ask him to share any of the mystery behind it.  Proposals are special and only happen once between a couple and you wouldn’t want to ruin that.

So yeah, make sure you two are on the same page, but let him take the lead and do what he has planned … even if that means waiting a few more months.  You’ll be happy you did when that day finally comes!  🙂

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2017

I think that most men want to do it when they feel everything is just right. It’s more important to them on how they propose then it is to us, so I’m sure he’s just waiting till he knows exactly when and how 🙂

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I will admit that I have never fully understood waiting. If I got to the point where I was actively waiting for a proposal, I’d be gone. At my age (and yours), who has time for that? And I can’t stand the “if you shut up about it, I’ll propose” mentality. It’s a joint decision, and the ship sailed on a surprise proposal years ago. 

Post # 10
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Newbee

doberman:  

 

I agree.  I think sometimes that’s it’s a bit unfair for the man to be the one who decides when this event that greatly impacts the woman will take place.  Sure, it affects both people involved, but for the guy to have all the control over it seems kind of wrong to me.  For the woman to just sit quietly by and wait for him to act is pretty ridiculous.  But having said that, I’m sitting and waiting too.  

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Post # 11
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Helper bee

I would join the shut it up thread and give him until like Valentine’s Day. If nothing comes then I’d ask again. Or on feb 29th ask him 😛

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