(Closed) First Post – I need your input!

posted 7 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
6892 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I’m not super familiar with the concerns that have been discussed (haven’t read the other thread) I think that you could mention to him how much you love that ring. There’s nothing wrong with that. Maybe there is a middle ground somewhere – maybe he proposes with that ring and that is ‘your ring’ but you have another that is more practical and for every day use, if that was the concern?

*Was the concern losing it, theft, what? Just wondering! 🙂

Post # 4
4824 posts
Honey bee

I am not sure I understand the saftey reasons?

Do you work in a shop?

It can be insured so if it does get lost it can be replaced. And that is the risk no matter how big or small your ring is.

Let him know what you prefer. There is no shame in that.

If he is THAT worried than you can get a duplicate ring to wear most days and wear the real ring for weekends and special occasions, but in reality I do think if its given to you to wear, wear it. Its not the crown jewels.

Post # 5
11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I would definitely let him know you prefer that ring. It sounds beautiful, it has special meaning, and its FREE. Sounds like a winner to me. As for the personal safety stuff… perhaps suggest to him that you get a nice wedding band that you can wear on an “everyday” basis and the engagement ring could be more like for special occasions? Or if he’s concerned about you wearing it even during the period of your engagement, suggest perhaps a simple eternity “proposal band” (another bee here got that but for the life of me I’m blanking on her name) that you could wear for “everyday” and wear the heirloom ring only when it is safe. Then you could either use your proposal band as a wedding band or get another band as a wedding band and switch off or wear 2 bands together when you dont want to wear the e-ring. 


hive– help me out here…. who was the bee who had a rose gold eternity proposal band then designed her own art deco e-ring with an heirloom stone and got a separate plain wedding band? She has a maquerade themed wedding I *think* around Halloween 2010. Help?


ETA- I figured it out! Jack-O. You can see her proposal band and 2 wedding bands here: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/wedding-bands-are-here-check-pix

and her engagement ring here: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/e-ring-porn-pix-kind-of-sort-of-–-lol

Post # 6
490 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

I think you should talk to your boyfriend about the ring because you should get one that you feel happy with!  If he feels better about it, maybe he can still buy the other one for when you are out in places that he feels are unsafe or that he would worry about. 

Post # 7
5423 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2012

If you love the ring tell him how u feel.  Are you a band person?  Some people dont even wear the engagement rings after their married.  You could get a uber fab wedding band which you where all the time, and only bring the engagement ring out for special occasions.

Post # 9
3977 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@CorgiTales:Wow, that art deco heirloom she designed is gorgeous!

I agree with all the others. I think if you express it to me him the way you expressed it here there’s no way he could be hurt or take offense. Maybe let him pick out your wedding band or a great right hand ring.

Post # 10
4824 posts
Honey bee

@MissElizabeth: As for THAT safey concern, I would say that the average size of a ring in NY is closer to yours, so you will not be a target more than usual.  As opposed to, say, if you lived in Minnesota.


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