(Closed) First post, this website is exactly what I need! Long…help =[

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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352 posts
Helper bee

Welcome! & sorry you’re going through this *hug*. I would talk to him even if you do become a big sobbing blurting mess because if you don’t you might always feel resentment towards him. Who knows maybe he was considering it when he asked you that question while at the jeweler but felt hurt or shut down by your response (not saying it’s your fault, I totally understand how you felt that he shouldn’t even be asking if he already had said he never planned on marriage). If you don”t speak up you’ll never know, maybe he has realized hey I wanna spend the rest of my life with this girl as more than bf & gf or maybe the talk can open his mind to it. If he’s still set on not getting married or even engaged after the talk your next step is considering whether you can live with just being bf & gf or moving on (if it unfortunately gets to this point, allow yourself time to think things over & to choose rationally so as not to make a life changing decision out of impulse off of the hurt or anger you may be feeling at the moment). Either way, I wish you the best of luck in whatever you decide to do & how it all turns out & remember over time people do change their minds as they grow so maybe he just might need more time (23 is still borderline young & I’m not saying this because I’m older, I’m 24, but I also do understand how badly you want a lil more serious commitment after five years).

Post # 4
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14 posts
Newbee

I can understand how you must feel – i’m 25 and am hoping that a proposal will be sometime soon (but realistically I know it probably won’t be!)

I’d have an honest talk about how you feel, I don’t think what you said in the past or a divorce should really put him off – just explain calmly how much it matters to you.

Welcome and I hope you guys can talk about it – the boards are a great place to find support and honest responses 🙂

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