- 5 years ago
First post I’ve ever written on here. I like the website, its great to hear that other women are waiting and going through some of the same things that I have been going through.
I’ve been dating my boyfriend for 2 years and 5 months. Things have been going very well with our relationship, and we currently live together. He is about to get ready to graduate with a PhD and he is very busy as of late. He has also expressed many concerns about not wanting to stay in the city that we are currently living in (mostly because he does not feel that there will be work for him), so this has caused a great deal of anxiety on my part about the relationship.
We’ve already had a talk about the relationship and he has stated that he does see us getting married and having a future together so that makes me relieved. He has also stated that ideally, he would like to have a job before we he proposes so he can provide for a family and afford a ring. I am okay with waiting but lately he’s been very absent because he is working on writing his thesis and training the younger people in his group. We also just found out that his current advisor is leaving in March and he needs to graduate this spring, and I will not be graduating until the summer. He has stated that he thinks he can stay around until summer but he is not sure.
I am going crazy with the waiting. I am going to be 30 in two months and I am just finding myself in a different place than him. I am ready to get married and hopefully have kids NOW. The relationship as it is will probably not be moving forward in that way for at least a year. We have also talked about me relocating with him but I have been the one to bring up the topic more so than him so I am also worried that I am the one pushing the relationship the entire way. Has anyone been through this situation or have any type of advice?