- 2 weeks ago
- Wedding: October 2019
So this is my first pregnancy and it’s still very early. Only a couple of the closest people to me know I’m pregnant and I want to keep it a secret until at least 12 weeks.
But my issue is this. My best friend of most of my life is really upsetting me. She keeps hinting to mutual friends that I’m pregnant, and when they ask her if I am, she says “yes but she doesn’t want anyone to know yet, so don’t tell anybody.” And then today, she tells me she’s made me a REGISTRY and that she put her home address down as the address to send the items to, and that I can “change it later if I want to.”
I told her it’s completely unnecessary for her to make my registry for me and that I can handle it when the time comes, but thanked her for caring so much and wanting to help. I explained that it’s still far too early in my pregnancy for me to be doing anything like that anyway, especially because of how much trouble I’ve had getting pregnant in the first place. And her response was just “It’s never too early! Plus it’s already done, don’t worry about it!”
I’m sure she’s trying to be helpful but its really upsetting me that she’s just ignoring what I’m saying and continuing to do whatever she feels like regarding MY pregnancy.
It hasn’t been easy getting pregnant, and now that finally I am, I just want to take it slow and enjoy all of the little experiendes with my child’s father. But I feel like between her excitedly telling people I’m pregnant and THEN creating a registry against my wishes, she’s just stealing all of my first pregnancy experiences from me. And it’s really making me kind of regret telling her. I’ve tried talking to her and explaining that, and she gets defensive. I don’t know what to do.
She’s been like a sister to me for most of my life but I’ve never seen her behave like this and it’s stressing me out. I understand she’s excited, but dang!
Has anyone experienced this? What would YOU do in this situation? I’ve tried so hard to tip toe around her feelings because she can be extremely sensitive, but I’m just not okay with this. So I’ve tried being more direct, and it’s like she’s still not getting it.
Am I wrong for being upset? Like I said, I know she’s just excited and wants to be a part of the entire process, but at the end of the day, my boyfriend and I want this to be an intimate experience. We’ve each only told VERY VERY FEW of our closest family members and friends for now, but I wish she would respect that.