(Closed) First pregnancy, miscarriage at 5 weeks

posted 6 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

hellodahlia:  My best friend had a miscarriage at 10 weeks and almost immedately got pregnant after, and successfully had a perfect little baby boy!!

Post # 17
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m so sorry.  I hope you get your sticky BFP very soon. *hugs* My best friend miscarried at 9 weeks and got pregnant the next cycle with a healthy baby girl, now 2 years old.  

Post # 18
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

Just to let you know, I know a LOT of women who have been through this. They say that one in three pregnancies end in miscarriage. If you look at the medical histories of myself and my closest friends, 4/7 of us have had at least one early miscarriage…. and that’s just the miscarriages that we all felt comfortable talking about! I suspect that one of my friends also had a miscarriage a while back which she does not want to share with the group… making the total 5/7.

I know that my mother and DH’s mother have both also had at least one miscarriage each. My mother’s mother had more than one, as did DH’s grandmother.

If all of these women have had miscarriages, think about how common it is. People must usually go on to have healthy children afterwards, or else the human race would die out completely!

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I am so sorry you are hurting, i had a MC the day before mothers day last year so i completely understand how you feel. and im sorry for your loss. my friend had a MC her second pregnancy but then she went on to have 3 more healthy babies. things will get better

Post # 20
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013 - Rock Hill Country Club, Manorville NY

My first pregnancy was miscarried (Chemical Pregnancy) at 4 weeks. I got pregnant the very next cycle and was diagnosed with a Blighted Ovum at 7 weeks and had a medically assisted miscarriage. We waited 2 cycles and got pregnant the next one that we tried on, and I am going to be 18 weeks tomorrow, with baby showing all signs of being healthy and normal. My second trimester ultrasound is actually tomorrow.

I found that the more people I told about my miscarriages, the more people I discovered went through the same thing. Women I work with, my mother in law, so many women had been through what I went through. In a way it helped me heal.

Still I felt like I need to take the reigns on my fertility since most doctors want to wait for you to have 3 to do testing. I decided to start myself on a baby aspirin regimin (81 mg a day, completely safe) while TTC and still during my pregnancy. Then for my mind, I decided I would not cast any doubt or negativity on this pregnancy because it was unfair to me and baby. My mother also bought be a St. Gerard medal which I’ve worn since our third time TTC.

Who knows if anything I’m doing has actually helped, or it’s been a coincidence, but there’s no harm in trying.

Please know that you are not alone in this though. So many of us have gone through what you’re going through. It’s a cruel trick mother nature plays, in my opinion, but is in no way a reflection of your ability to bear a child. Just think, so many women don’t even find out they’re pregnant until 6, 7 8 weeks or later. If I wasn’t TTC, I wouldn’t have known I had a chemical pregnancy! Who knows how often that happens without women knowing. So take this time to relax, enjoy some wine, time with your SO, and just know that your rainbow baby is probably already on its way <3

 

Post # 21
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

hellodahlia: I do not have my own experience to share. but do know that my mom had a miscarriage with her first pregnancy and then went on to have 3 of us. so wanted to added to the list of examples others have shared.

but mainly I wanted to really just send hugs your way and say that I’m sorry you and your husband are experiencing this. 

Post # 22
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I just wanted to offer my support. The TTC boards seem to offer lots of hugs and help from women experiencing similar things. Just to echo what the other bees have said–this is unfortunately more common than many people realize and how you’re feeling is legit and normal. I also wanted to mention that you did nothing wrong. I’m sure you know that, but sometimes people get caught up in their thoughts (especially in grief) and it’s very important for you to not blame yourself. I hope your husband and you are supporting each other through this and wish you a healthy happy pregnancy sometime soon!

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