(Closed) First RSVP etiquette breech- VENT

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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3265 posts
Sugar bee

@Pinksapphire:  Don’t stress out about it.  Just let her know.

Being sick isn’t a free pass to just invite people to other people’s events. You don’t have to confront her and be hostile.  Just pass it off as a misunderstanding.

“Oh hello, Aunt Betsy, it’s me Pinksapphire.  I’m just calling about your RSVP.  It seems that there was a misunderstanding.  Unfortunately, Fiance and I are not able to accomodate uncle unknown.  We are very much looking forward to seeing you and Uncle Darling Husband.” 

There isn’t anything impolite or wrong with that. 

 

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

Ugh that sucks.  Has anyone RSVP’d no so that you can fit in this uncle?  I do agree with you that it’s difficult to confront someone when they’re likely not going to be around soon… you don’t want to leave things on a sour note…

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

‘This is why it is suggested that you invite in family ‘circles’ – if you invite one great-aunt, you should invite the rest of them in that branch, otherwise there will be hurt feelings.

Can you really not accommodate this uncle?  I would try my best to see if I could scrap together the extra $ for his meal/seat.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

That 2/3 ‘rule’ is indeed crap.  The ‘average’ is 10-20% but it is always suggested to budget for 100% attendance.

ETA: You knew that he lived there when you mailed the invitations, though.  So you have to choose between finding a way to accommodate your great-uncle or telling the great-aunt you are super close to that she cannot bring her brother.

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