- 7 years ago
So the bad news–we are no longer looking to buy a house just yet. The good news–we are going to rent–and SOON! Like, as in before-Christmas-soon!!! The even BETTER news?? I smell something sparkly in the fairly near future!!! Not trying to get hopes up too much, though…
Recently Boyfriend or Best Friend and I have narrowed down house choices to either an older, smaller house that would need a little work but would cost very little, or get a house that is being built before the realtors get to it and pay a little more for it (and wait longer for it). We are just so anxious to get out and live together. Well, I won’t be living with him til he puts a ring on it, but either way the first step is moving out (for him, at least).
Yesterday Boyfriend or Best Friend and his dad went to look at a house we were somewhat interested in. It is an older, smaller house–one that we would probably only live in for like 5 years then move on. When they came back, Boyfriend or Best Friend told me what his dad said. They found cracks in the foundation, patches on the roof, and a busted in basement window–not good signs. We would be spending a majority of those 5 years fixing up the place, not socializing there, as we had hoped. His dad asked him why we are so set on BUYING a house so soon. Boyfriend or Best Friend said that we didnt want to throw rent money down the drain while trying to save for a house. His dad asked why we are rushing to get out so soon and he told him that it’s bc we love each other and are ready to move in together and can’t wait any longer!!! His dad said that he didn’t want to sound old fashioned but that he thought it would be better if we were going to get married before moving in together, and that’s when he told his dad that we were probably closer to that than he thought (BF was telling me this on our own later)!!!
Boyfriend or Best Friend told me that since we no longer need the money for a down payment on a house quite so soon that we are MUCH MUCH closer to an engagement. He has a LOT saved since we thought we were going to be buying a house. He didn’t want to ruin any suprises, but he did say that he wanted to be moved out by CHRISTMAS and he knows that I won’t move in until he pops the question. That’s not to say that he won’t be living by himself for a little while, but I know he doesn’t want to live alone. This will give us the chance to save for both a wedding and a house while living together. We just can’t wait any longer. For 4.5 years we have been commuting to each others’ houses, and enough is enough! We are both on the same page about renting and we both understand that a proposal needs to happen before I move in.
It just feels really relieving, but almost a little weird, thinking that within weeks we could have a place of our own. It was this dream I have had for years that never felt like it would become reality. Even if it doesn’t happen before Christmas, just knowing it could be happening soon makes things so much better. After we had that conversation I already felt so much of my anxiety melt away and it was like the first few months of dating all over again–joking, tickling, kissing. All I needed was some reassurance. I’m not trying to put the wagon ahead of the horse, but now I know it is within reach, not just some wild fantasy. If boys only understood that giving their GFs even just a little info as to when/if they are going to do it will make things so much better, the world would be a much better place.
So, for once, I have a happy post, not a concerned, upset, or confused one. I’m still very much a Waiting Bee, but I’m hoping that I’ll get to graduate soon, as well as the rest of you. Here’s hoping for a really happy new year!!!