Post # 1
Ok, here’s the deal. I am really excited about planning my wedding. The thing is, I have NEVER been all that into “girly stuff”. Im not a tom boy by any means (used to be in middle school), its just, I never had a sister and my mom never really helped me learn all the girly stuff growing up (because I WAS a tomboy). So I think I have everything figured out until I talk to my BFF, and I find out all this stuff about makeup and hair and clothes that I never knew. Like, the other day she was talking about BB cream, and I was like, what the heck is that? I wear makeup, but only eyeliner, mascara, the basics, because I can not for the life of me even figure out how to apply eye shadow properly. Same thing goes with curling my hair. Ive tried MANY times and it looks terrible.
Anyway, the point is, I am going wedding dress shopping in a few months, and I am really excited, but nervous. I couldnt name you one dress designer, or typical dress fabric, or most styles (I know mermaid gowns and A-line and stuff like that). I am always seeing on here Bees talking about stores having sample sales or whatever they are called, and I have realized I dont know the first thing about shopping for dresses. Like, can I just WALK into a store, or do I have to make an appointment? I dont even know how the sizes go for dresses… I am taking my mom and Maid/Matron of Honor with me the first time, mostly because I literally know NOTHING about dress shopping.
If you could offer me any advice about the first time I shop for dresses, what would it be? Any tips on trying on knowing what type of dress would be flattering on me? I feel like its not going to be THAT fun of an experience for me….I wish it would. Basically, I want you to teach me how to be a GIRL. haha
Post # 3
I was in the exact same boat you were, not really a tomboy but not girly at all and knew nothing about dress shopping. You need to find a couple of different dress shops in your town and then I would research them and find reviews. Then make an appointment. You don’t really need to know any specific info at the actual appointment but if there are certain types of dresses you want to try on you might write down a list of the kinds you like so you can tell the lady you work with.
Google pictures of wedding dresses and write down which ones you like. Pinterest is awesome and can give you so many ideas! Take a strapless bra with you when you go shopping, if you try on a strapless dress you will want to know what it will look like without your bra straps. If you really want to be on top of the game you could wear your hair how you think you’ll wear it at the wedding so you can get a better idea of what it will really look like with a dress.
Do your best to relax and take it in, no one says you need to be all giddy and crazy. I didn’t cry or get emotional when I found my dress. I was happy I found it and I loved it but I was ready to get lunch and go home.
Post # 4
To be honest as long as you are prepared to try on lots of different dresses it might be better in some ways that you don’t have an ‘idea’ of what you want just now – look at how many posts you see on here where brides say that the dress they chose was totally different from what they thought they wanted. Going in ‘blind’ will mean you can trust your initial gut reaction more.
When I went in all I said was ‘I like lace’ and ‘I won’t spend over x amount of money’ and the lady took it from there (though they did try to be sneaky about pushing up the budget…).
Good Luck and enjoy it 🙂
Post # 5
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rosehill Community Center
I might start at Alfred Angelo or David’s Bridal if I were you. Make an appointment, and go in with an open mind. I looked online beforeI went to Alfred Angelo and wrote down the list of style numbers I thought I liked, and gave them to the consultant. She went from there, grabbed a few that I really thought I liked, and then started finding similar ones as my “vision” changed. I confirmed I liked lace and really wanted it, and liked tulle a lot. And the consultants are VERY helpful, they see so many different brides. If you’re not sure about a dress, keep looking.
Another suggestion is to keep in mind the season you’re getting married. For summer, you probably don’t want heavy fabrics. I really liked a satin dress, but it seemed so winter formal that it was nixed pretty quickly. But the light, airey-ness of the full tulle skirts seemed like it would be more summery to me. So go with your gut!
Also, the “moment” that a lot of brides are looking for doesn’t necessarily happen. I was pretty sure I am too practical to get overwhelmed by emotion. The first couple of appointments I went on I tried on dresses that I liked, but wasn’t ready to commit. So I kept looking. I then found a dress that almost made me tear up! But I think it was almost out of relief of having found something that I really really liked rather than having a “moment” of knowing it’s the one.
But it is mostly just fun to put on so many dresses that are way out there and not at all something you’d ever wear in real life! I tried on the biggest freaking ballgown I could find, and it was AWESOME. Might not be my ideal look, but the dress was about 4 times as big as me – when else will you get to wear something so crazy?
Post # 6
You should make an appointment. That way the sales lady can give you the attention you desire. Grab a wedding magazine and tear out the dresses you like best, bring those with you. And then start trying on dresses! The sales lady will know your size by measuring you. Be open minded and remember that you’re looking for something flattering, not necessarily trendy. Embrace your body type- that’s the biggest mistake I’ve noticed in my retail buying career- ladies will throw on something trendy that just doesn’t flatter and then get mad that it doesn’t look good. Most importantly though have fun! You don’t really need to know designers and fabric to find a perfect gown for you.
Post # 7
@shrubfish09: I was similar in that I never wanted to plan a wedding, never dreamed about a wedding as a young girl so I wasnt sure what I wanted either. But weddingbee was very helpful. I also didnt know when I first went dress shopping that i needed to have an appointment. Maybe look online and see what gowns you like the look of and then make an appointment in a store. One thing to remember if you havent read about it is some people get dress regret after buying thier dress and there are soo many dresses out there and sometimes (not always of course) brides see another dress they wished they had gotten especially if there is still a long way to the wedding so dont rush into it (acutally I did that myself) lol, but I fell in love with my dress again in the fitting I just had.
Post # 8
I am pretty girly, but never really planned or thought much about my wedding prior to being engaged. In fact, I put off planning for a good six months after getting engaged because I wasn’t ready to plan all the details lol!
You do NOT need to know the designers names or the fancy words for different types of details. Buy some Bridal magazines and cut out some dresses you like. Give them to the salesperson and tell them your budget and they’ll get dresses for you. They will probably even tell you if a certain type of gown doesn’t flatter you as much as another type of gown would. That’s their job and YOU don’t have to worry about that prior to your visit. You just try on dresses, have a good time, and when you find something you love you buy it. Easy peasy!
I recommend wearing full coverage underwear and a corset/shapewear type undergarment when you go to try on gowns. The salesperson will be helping you change in and out of dresses so you don’t want to be too exposed.
Good luck, have fun!
Post # 9
Tagging this for tips. Trust me OP, I have no useful advice on this matter lol.
Post # 10
Try to go on a weekday when they are less crowded, and don’t take a billion people. The opinions can drown out your own, and then you get dress regret.
Post # 11
Def. make an appointment. Its much easier that way. Also, a PP said to go on a day other than a weekend, which is also a great tip. I found that when I went on weekdays rather than weekends, it was a much easier feel and wasn’t as overwhelming. BE PREPARED to try on tons of dresses. Some you will LOVE, some you will HATE. Just be honest with what you want and how you envision yourself on your wedding day. Be open though to try on a lot of different styles. I went in with one dress in mind, but ended up with something that was not at ALL what I had thought I would get.
I tried on probably over 50 gowns before picking one. And then I tried on some of the same ones again. LOL
Post # 12
Honestly, you don’t really need to know anything about dresses to shop for them. You need to know your budget. And you need to know some general guidelines about what type of wedding you are planning to have. You would pick a drastically different dress for a courthouse wedding vs a traditional catholic mass vs a casual outdoor wedding. So I think it’s more important to know about your weddiing than to know about dresses. And just have fun. Try on lots of different things and you’ll figure out what you like and what looks good on you.
Post # 13
Allow plenty of time. A year is good.
Try on all different shapes, A line (high waist and low waist), mermaid, empire, princess. Even if you dont think they will suit, just have ago. Strapless and straps. Sweetheart neckline, straight neckline.
Wear some basic makeup and have your hair similar to how you want it ie tied up or down. Nothing fancy.
Listen to the staff in the shop, they have seen many a lady try on dresses & they will know what looks good. If you havent found them helpful, move to the next shop.
Either go on your own to start off with or take one person. Too many people may confuse you.
Wear sensible knickers, lol!!
When you find a dress you really love, you might not feel the need to cry or get all emotional. You might just feel you dont wanna look anymore. I had to try my dress on a few times before I was sure it was the one. I didn’t get the tears with any of the dresses. I’m just not the type to cry over something like that.
Always visit more than one shop anyway. The amount of people that get dress regret on here through not shopping around it quite sad really.
I hope you really enjoy it mainly. It is really fun and exciting. It can be stressful at times but you will get there