(Closed) First time dress shopping today-Cried through whole appointment :(

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Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Aww I’m so sorry! I understand, as I have been in that place before. I have a million insecurties and food issues, previous to marriage, so in flourecent lit rooms with bunches of women , trying on tight white dresses would be the absolute death of me. I measured myself and aquired several dresses online, and tried them on myself in the comfort of my own home with nice natural lighting and familiar mirrors. It helped tremendously.

Please know that you are gorgeous and you will find the one that makes YOU feel that way πŸ™‚

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I want to hug you right now! Of course the dress looked off, it was a size 8! I am a size 16 and I’d barely fit my hips into a 12! You will find a dress that looks gorgeous and works for your body, don’t get down on yourself! Look at all the curvy and plus sized ladies on here, I have NEVER seen a curvier bride on here that didn’t end up looking beautiful on her wedding day. Seriously, never. And you will be no exception!

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Bostongrl25:

I’m so sorry your first dress experience was such a traumatic one.  But you know, we’ve all had moments like this, whatever shape and size we are, where we’ve tried things on and been grossed out by what we like like. This won’t be the case with all the dresses you try on. There will be plenty of dresses that flatter your shape and make you look beautiful you have to just give yourself a bit of time and try again. I guarantee you’ll make a beautiful bride in the right dress πŸ™‚

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I actually know exactly how you feel. Fiance and I have been together for almost 6 years, we already have 3 children (couldn’t wait, I guess?) and I am 40 pounds more now than I was when I met him. I remember buying a bridesmaid dress in a 8/10 at David’s the first year we were together, and when I went there to look for wedding dresses, I had to try on 14s and 16s and to me they still looked horrendous. It was not fun.

I ended up making myself keep looking at dresses. That’s all that really can be done. I started walking/jogging and I’m really going to start watching what I eat once the New Year gets here. I found a dress that didn’t look bad on me in my current shape, and while it was a far cry from what I envisioned myself in, I know that if I like it on me now, then there is no doubt that it will look amazing once my body starts to improve.

Don’t be too hard on yourself, just take control of how you take care of your body and that in itself will make you feel better about what’s going on the outside. And remember, there are some who look at 14 as a goal size! πŸ™‚

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

When you find the right dress, you will look and feel beautiful–trust in that and if you don’t feel that way then keep looking! Your fiance thinks you are beautiful as you are and that’s what matters most. Sorry you had a rough experience though.

Post # 9
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: December 2012

So sorry to hear that you had a not fun expierence. Just remeber how much your Fiance loves you and how beautiful he thinks you are just the way you are! Keep trying on and don’t give up! You will look as amazing as the pictures you have seen of the full figured women! Being a street size 20 is not something I have EVER been proud of but everyday my Fiance tells me how gorgeous I am and it gives me strength to love myself a little more each day…

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m flying back to California in about a week’s time and a few days after that I’m dress shopping with my, thin, mom and sister and I’m dreading it.  I’m worried that I will have the same reaction you’ve had.  I’ve been dieting for a few months now but haven’t lost a lot of weight so I’m disappointed in myself.  Seeing your post has really started to freak me out!  I hope that we both find dresses we’ll feel beautiful in!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I gained a lot of weight after high school… it took me a long time to get used to it and accept that it’s ok to NOT be skinny any more. I am a street size 14 (sometimes 16 when I have a few particularly stressful weeks — haha). For me… it was just about finding a good shape for myself. I specifically research bridal salons that had plenty of sample dresses in larger sizes. I didn’t want to have the experiences of being squeezed into a ton of dresses that didn’t fit me. I found a dress I love (for me… drop-waist and a-line was the way to go).

 

I hope that you can regroup and try to love yourself the way you are! There ARE plenty of dresses that will look beautiful on you! You WILL find them!

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

I am positive you will look gorgeous on your wedding day! But I do understand how you feel. I gained weight in the past few years as well, and trying on those small sample size wedding dresses didn’t help my self consciousness about it…Eventually I just visualized the shape of the dress on me and the way it would look in my size and how flattering it would be, ignoring the fact that the zipper was being held together by clamps on my back.

Trying on dresses several sizes too small would be unflattering on ANY body shape or size.

We are our own worst critics…and you are probably looking at yourself with a magnifying glass- much differently than others see you.

Im so sorry your first experience was so negative. I hope your next trips will be happier.

 

 

 

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I hope this makes you feel a little better, and doesn’t come off as bitchy (but you know how us Boston girls can be… :))

I’m a street size 4/6. When I went to go try on dresses, the samples were mostly bridal size 10. I knew that bridal sizes ran small, but I figured I’d still need those clamps like on SYTTD. Well, the first dress I tried on looked really big on the hanger and WOULD NOT ZIP UP. I am really insecure about my body, and I have big boobs and really broad shoulders, so I have a hard time with dresses as opposed to seperates. I wouldn’t even give this dress a chance because I felt so awful about myself.

So, what I’m trying to say, is designers make their dresses teeeensy tiny. It’s not that you’re too big, it’s that the dresses are too small! I worked out like a crazy person and finally fit into my size 10 sample that I bought…and made my mom cut out the tag.

 

Youll find a beautiful dress that makes you feel beautiful! Where have you gone to look? I have a few suggestions if you need them! Good luck!

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@pinkandsparkly: I’ll second this experience. All the dresses I tried on seemed to be at least a size smaller than street size. I had to go with an 8 but I am really a six. Not to mention the dresses I tried on in some shops that said 10 but fit me perfectly :/ lol. 

Don’t be so hard on yourself! Sizes are seriously a little whacked in some places and I’m positive you’re going to look gorgeous no matter what. You’re the bride πŸ˜‰ !

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

 

There is nothing worse than ill fitting clothes – soo unflattering! Please try not to worry, you will find the right dress that pulls you in in all the right places. You don’t need to be a size 4 to be a beautiful bride. Talk to your partner about how you feel and I’m sure he will reassure you about just how beautiful you are! Chin up and keep smiling πŸ™‚

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

omg * Hug*! I wish I could give you a hug right now and Im very sorry your feeling this way. Its not easy for us to love our body- Even models, celebraties and many many other girls always have days or moments where theyre not satisfied with how they look. its a girl thing and its very normal. I want to tell  you to accept and love yoruself as you are and of course you know that we should try to do that.. But you can always try to make a changee in your life style! Frm the date I see, your wedding is in October.. You have PLENTY of time to get in the shape you desire and make some serious commitment for change..you can do it!

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