First time Mom and I’m a wreck

posted 1 year ago in Pregnancy
Post # 2
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

CDagger19 :  I know exactly how you feel! I’m 25 weeks pregnant, happy to be expecting our baby girl, but damn it’s mentally hard to prepare for the changes up ahead and I doubt myself so much. Don’t be so hard on yourself mama. The way you feel is 100% normal. Be easy on yourself, try to do little things that you like, pamper yourself, etc. This is a journey.

Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

First of all, congratulations on your pregnancy. Every child to be born is a blessing! I gave birth 3 months ago, I’m a first time mom and I can assure you that things are easier than you imagine. People were giving birth since the beginning of time, like it’s in our nature! How old are you, if I may ask?

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2018

Congratulations! I have never been pregnant, but from what I’ve seen from friends and family, it’s a rollercoaster of emotions and you should totally allow yourself to feel what you feel. Remember your body and hormones are changing, and it’s a big lifestyle change too. You will do great!

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think all these feelings are pretty valid no matter how ready you were and when it happens.  We tried for over 5 years.  We wanted this BAD, we’ve had 5 years to be “ready”…. but at 35 weeks and closing in on our due date, i’m still go holy crap, what have we gotten ourselves in to, our life as we know it will never be the same (in hopefully a good way).  And that kind of change is always scary!

Post # 6
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Newbee

Congratulations on the newest tiny Blackhawks fan in your family!  Woohoo!   When I first found out I was pregnant, I thought I had to have everything 100% figured out immediately.  When in reality, there is lots of time.   Ask questions.  Treat yourself.  Take one thing at a time.  And remember that your kid will have awesome parents!  

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

I haven’t been pregnant but my friend went through this and I was actually the first person she told even before the dad. She called me crying hysterically saying she couldn’t do it and even though she wanted a  baby it scared the shit out of her. That was only her initial shock. It wore off in a couple weeks and after her first ultrasound she was OVER-THE-MOON! I think and hope you will feel the same. Good luck bee and congrats! I hope you have a healthy pregnancy. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

try to soak in everything as you dont know how man children you will have my last one i couldnt wait for it to be over and am not having anymore (got my tubes tide ) and now although i havent changed my mind im said i didnt soak up more of the pregnancy

take pictures and maybe start a journal im not a journal person but would have been nice to look back at each little milstone also because i have a terrible memory

congrats MOMMa

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

Congratulations bee!! I can imagine I’d feel exactly the same, I get scared and anxious about planning, I bet I’ll feel exactly the same as you when it eventually happens. I’m sure you are as “ready” as you’ll ever be, if ever there is such a thing. Take care of yourself and I’m sure after a few weeks you’ll settle in and be excited about your pregnancy 🙂 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

I totally get how you feel! We TTC for a year and a half and were so excited to get pregnant. But at the same time, I was totally freaked out and questioned if we really wanted to do this.

In some ways, you will never be absolutely ready to have a baby. It’s never the absolute perfect time. It’s a big change! Your whole world is going to change. you are allowed to feel nervous about the unknown.

Post # 11
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Helper bee

How far along are you? If you are due in April roughly please feel free to comment on the April 19 forum. We have set up a private Facebook group to chat about how we are feeling and give each other support. There are a few first time moms in there you will feel very welcome and support is a necessity believe me.

Sure it life changing it’s terrifying and it’s emotional. However I guarantee it will be one of the best gifts you can give yourself. 

Congratulations hunni things will get calmer and clearer soon enough xx

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I think a lot more people than you’d expect go through this. I remember being so so eager to get pregnant, and then when it happened I was like oh god what are we going to do! Gradually over the course of the pregnancy it settled in and we got prepared (9 months is a long time!). And honestly 1 kid hasn’t impacted our life as much as we worried…. we bring our pack n play to dinner parties or gatherings and just put her so sleep in a bedroom, or find babysitters! Plus evenings are more fun now – I come home from work and we play at the park and splash in the bath 🙂 I don’t sleep in or watch as much Netflix but honestly life is good!

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

CDagger19 :  I totally felt that way with two of my three pregnancies, one planned and one surprise.  All ended well and by the time baby got here I was emotionally ready and head over heels in love with baby.  I notice I get really emotional and anxious and even fleetingly depressed over almost any big event in my life, even the ones that are joyous/should be celebratory.  It’s just the way I tend to process things, I’m sure there is a psychology behind it but I’ve come to accept it as part of who I am and how I react to big things.  I always am able to move on and recover fairly quickly.  I would say if these sad, anxious feelings do not go away within a few weeks, make sure to mention them to your obgyn.

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