Post # 1
First time posting to this site but have received a lot of good insight from other people’s posts so I thought I would give it a try…
I went to a bridal store today feeling excited because I had done my research and was ready to buy. I’ve lost 20 pounds through Jenny Craig so far, and was feeling prepared for this day – finally! Well, no such luck. Most of the dresses I wanted to try weren’t available in my size, or I just didn’t like them on me. I’m busty, and it is reeeeaaallly hard to tell what a strapless gown looks like when you can’t get it fastened properly. Ends up looking like a loose bath towel wrapped around your chest! And since the dresses run small I am in the special order category. The lighting was bad, there were not enough mirrors, it was crowded, noisy, ugh!!! Not at all what I was hoping for today.
I’m going to sleep on it and revisit the pictures we took. There were a couple that I liked but I never had that “feeling” I keep hearing everyone talk about. Maybe it was just me getting used to being in a wedding dress. It’s overwhelming.
I’ve been spending so much time getting everyone else’s outfits chosen and ordered, I’m running out of time because my wedding is in 4 months.
Anyone else going through this rollercoaster?
Post # 3
Don’t put too much pressure on yourself! It will work out.
In the mean time, would you mind posting some of the photos you took? Would love to see.
Post # 4
I feel you on the busty thing. What helped me was going to David’s Bridal and trying on dresses in my size to see what shapes really did look good on me.
Post # 5
Wedding dress shopping isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. It’s hard on your body image, your self-esteem, your patience, and your wallet.
Keep reminding yourself that it’s about finding a dress to fit YOU, not the other way around. And you WILL find it; it’ll be the one that reminds you how glorious it is to be shaped just the way you are.
Post # 6
@helly: lol, are you as addicted to seeing people in their dresses as me?!
My first dress try on wasn’t horrible, and I ended up finding a dress. But i was VERY frustrated at first. I felt like everything I tried on was bad, or the sample was so off size wise you couldn’t tell what it would really look like. She brought it a dress I never would have tried, and I ended up absolutely loving it on. I definitely got that feeling. It was just as I decided I wasn’t going to get a dress that day, too! Don’t lose hope! Relax and be silly and you might find it goes a lo easier.
Post # 7
I feel your pain! I am plus size and most of the sample dresses tried on we couldn’t even zip/button up. So it was hard to tell how it would look properly! Just take some deep breathes and go with an open mind.
Post # 9
@AlieNC: Just uploaded pictures of the two I liked the best…thoughts?
Post # 10
I think you look beautiful! The second looks great on you and really shows off your figure. I think you should definitely go with something that cuts you at the waist instead of an empire cut. Has a bit more shape which really highlights your body. Now that I’m looking at them again I really love that second dress. It’s so pretty!!
Post # 11
I love the first one, especially the back. What about putting the black belt on the first one?
Post # 12
I like the second dress too. You are busty, but have a defined waist and you should show it off.
Post # 13
The second one is fantastic on you!
Post # 14
I love the first one – the back is adorable and it’s so figure flattering!
I hear ya’ on the busty thing (I’m a dd). I just tried some dresses on and stuff fit me everywhere except my chest. It was rough but after talking to the consultant it seemed like it was possible to alter the top of the dress while keeping the rest of it the correct size.
Post # 15
First of all, congrats on your weight loss! I think they both look good on you with the second being my favorite though. I never got that “feeling” with my dress. I know that I loved it more than the others i’d tried on and loved looking at myself in it though. Try going shopping during the week if you can. There will be far less people which would probably make the experience better for you. I think I went to 7 stores before I found mine. I think i’ve seen some extension type clips in some places that held the dress in place even if it was too small… they had some sort of string with a clip attached to each side.
Not to make you anymore nevous but I know many dress take 4+ months to come in with regular shipping (mine took 5). You may have to look into rush shipping…. I believe David’s Bridal may do them quicker?
Good luck! You’ll know when you find it 🙂
Post # 16
Come on, you’re being too harsh on yourself. Those dresses do NOT look like “loose bath towels”. Keep looking and you’re bound to find “the one” so don’t give up hope!