First Time TTC – Help Me!

posted 2 years ago in TTC
Post # 2
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Sugar bee

Answers: 

– No. 

– Some say yes, others say no. Either way sperm can live for up to 5 days so if one day has lower sperm quality, there should still be other sperm hanging around. As far as I know, studies haven’t shown a significant difference in men with normal sperm.

– You should be temping and charting your cycles. OPKs definitely help as well. Have you confirmed you’re ovulating?

– I never tried any, but lots of bees use PreSeed.

– Have you talked to a doctor about potentially doing a semen analysis on DH? Does he have any reason to believe he might have sperm quality issues? 

 

I would definitely start temping and charting if you’re not. It’s the only way to get some concrete information about your cycle without lots of medical tests. 

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I would highly recommend not relying on an app to tell you when you ovulate. Invest in OPKs to get a solid idea of when your LH surge is; had I relied on my app when we were trying we never would have had sex at the right time.

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

You can’t confirm ovulation with just an app that’s making a best guess. You’ll need to temp or do OPKs to really confirm when you ovulate so you don’t miss your window!

-Someone who spent months using the best guess of an app. 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

iamdre :  You’re tracking your period. Charting your cycle is tracking your cervical mucus, cervical position, resting temperature every morning, days of bleeding – are the important factors. Cervical position doesn’t have to be done, but it can help.

Your body has a temperature rise after an egg is released. This temperature rise signals that your body is indeed ovulating. 

Your period tracker only tracks the days you enter for bleeding and then guesstimates based on an average cycle of 28 days, with an average LP of 14 Days, that you *should* be ovulating on cycle day 14, assuming you’re ovulating at all. Most women don’t have the “average cycle” of 28 days with an LP of 14 days. All you’re doing is keeping track of where in the month you had a period. 

Ovulation is much more complicated than that. And until you can confirm that 1) you’re actually ovulating and 2) when you’re ovulating, you could be missing your fertile window all together. 

OPKs will tell you when the LH hormone in your body, the one responsible for releasing an egg, is surging and increasing. You could get an LH surge but not release an egg. The part that confirms an egg has been released is the temperature shift. 

 

Buy the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility. It’s a really important read for learning this stuff. 

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
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iamdre :  “Drink till it’s pink” is what a lot of people do. So they indulge in whatever until they get a positive. 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

iamdre :  Unless you’re drinking copious amounts, a few glasses/cups won’t mess with your fertility. A lot of people are drink til it’s pink, still others feel comfortable drinking coffee throughout pregnancy. 200mg of caffeine is considered safe during pregnancy, so a cup or two shouldn’t hurt anything. 

Some ladies stop drinking coffee and alcohol during their two week window after ovulation before the next period – others don’t. 

It’s really a personal choice. But social drinking of coffee or alcohol shouldn’t affect anything. 

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
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MsPlucky :  This was so well explained.

What she said, OP.

Post # 13
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Busy bee

Read the board about the trifecta to get pregnant. 

Preseed lube, menstrual cup and mucinex. Worked for me on the second cycle. Unfortunately that pregnancy ended in a miscarriage, but were on our second cycle trying again now and I have high hopes!  

GOOD LUCK XX

Post # 14
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Sugar bee

slomotion :  I have my moments! 

Unfortunately, there was not a moment at my midwife appointment today when she started talking about labor and I totally spaced and was like “I’m doing that?” To which she replied, “Well, you’re the one 36 weeks pregnant.” 🤭😑

iamdre :  You’re welcome. Feel free to ask questions and join all the TTC boards, lots of ladies to help. Soooo much information, they’re amazing that lot!

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

iamdre :  

a few things. first, if you have a 25 day cycle, it’s very unlikely you are ovulating on day 14 as the apps generally default to. I have 25-26 day cycles and I ovulate anywhere from day 8-11. Based on that, it’s very likely you’re missing ovulation if you are only having sex in the few days before the app estimates your ovulation. I used the clear blue Advanced digital OPKS to determine what my real fertile window is (for me, usually day 7-12). I would start having sex every other day from when your period is over for 2 weeks afterwards if you don’t use any method to determine when you ovulate (temping/OPK)  

second, you are putting a lot of pressure on yourself saying you hope to conceive in the next few cycles. Statistically it is unlikely to happen that quickly. 

 

It is absolutely safe to keep drinking coffee and alcohol during your fertile window. It is up to you but I still drink coffee in the TWW. Honestly when you’ve been TTC for 2 years, it doesn’t really make sense to give up on certain things. 

I also use preseed. It works as a lube but hasn’t helped me get pregnant. That being said, it is certainly not hurting. Most lubricants will kill sperm so I’d opt for that over any one brand if you use lube. 

Good luck!

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