(Closed) First time wedding dress shopping.. Tips??

posted 6 years ago in Dress
Post # 2
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Bumble bee

1. Be open minded, the dress silhousette you think would look the most flattering might not be.

2. It’s ok to say NO. Don’t be pressured into buying!

3. Look at pictures of yourself in the dress, ask your friend or whoever you’re with to sneak pics of you off guard so you can see how it may move or what it looks like from the back or whatever.

4. Don’t settle. Make sure you feel beautiful in it, not only have others or the sales person tell you that it looks beautiful.

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

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monsterly:  everything you said!

Especially number 1! Try on all different silhouettes and let the staff help you, they’ve dressed lots of body types so they should know what’s going to flatter you the most! 

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I agree with Monsterly!

The first shop I went into I tried on several similar dresses which I thought (assumed) would be the most flattering shape for me – and I felt awful in them all and was very disheartened.

The second shop I pulled lots of different dresses and just tried lots of things on even if I initially thought they wouldn’t suit me. I’ve ended up in love with a very dramatic mermaid dress – after initially thinking I’d end up in an a-line ball gown or empire waisted dress. 

Definitely get pictures in the dresses – pictures look way different compared to looking at yourself in the mirror! Also, having pictures helps when you’re trying on dress 10 and can’t remember enough about dress 2 to decide which you like better!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I agree with PP, especially #1. I went in with lots of pictures of (basically the same) A line dress. I was sure I wasn’t going to be one of those people who ended up with something different – I totally did! Keep an open mind and try on a “wild card”.

Don’t try too hard or stress about having that “bridal moment” and don’t let a friend or family memeber pressure you into to something you dont want. Get the dress YOU feel amazing in.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2016 - Little Chapel of Flowers

Don’t take too many people, all those opinions can be overwhelming. Also, take someone with taste similar to yours.   Never try on anything out of your price range.  Take a strapless bra and possibly shape wear if you use it.  Keep your mind open,but trust your instincts.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

My practical advice:

Wear white underwear and a white bra. It will help you get a better idea of what your dress will look like if your underclothes can blend in with the dress. Also, if you already know what height of heel you’re going to wear with the dress, bring a pair of that heighth with you to try on with the dress so you can get a better idea of what it will look like.

Be aware of sales tactics that some salons will use, such as placing a veil on your head to seal the deal. A lot of women will cave in and say yes to a dress when the consultant puts on a veil and you get that complete bridal look.

You can shop around for crinoline under skirts, waste line bras, etc, and probably get a better deal than getting everything from a bridal shop. The accessories with the dress can be WAY overpriced at those places. Shop around first, you can always go back and get the accessories later if you need to.

Remember to have fun, but be critical in your observations of the dress. Don’t get doe eyed and start over-looking obvious things that you won’t like later.

Good luck and have fun! I hope you find your dream dress!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

Go to a place that allows you to take photos, but be mindful that the camera angle for photos makes a big difference (ie: a dress that doesn’t look flattering when you get home may simply be a bad photo). Don’t buy that day. Where proper undergarments. I wore a one piece foundation. If you like a dress, but are having a hard time envisioning it because it is too big, ask them to pull it in more for you. I tried on some dresses that in hindsight might have been really nice, but they were large enought that I felt terrible about how I looked- just going to another salon where they clipped in the dresses made a huge difference. Good luck!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

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gracendrake:  take pictures of what you might be looking for, but don’t limit yourself to one specific style. Don’t bring many pe as everyone has an opinion( I went alone, I think Better alone). Do not pay attention to the dress sz…. Wedding dress numbers run smaller than regular clothes. Do not buy a dress at the first or even second store you go to… Tell them which ones you like best, ask a lot of questions as to who the designer is, dress name, sz. I went to two bridal stores the first one didn’t have the specific dress I wanted to try, but had me try ok some that I would consider, the second place I went to had the dress plus I even had a 1 and 2 runner up… Since the one dress I had in mind looked good on me I wanted it, But what I did was find my dress preowned and got it $1k cheaper… 

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

Dont be pressured to buy.  And while I agree that you should be open minded, they WILL put you in dresses that look AWFUL on you (my person put me in some awful thing that made me look like the ugly progeny of the StayPuff marshmallow man and some toga wearing ancient Greek.  NOT GOOD!  Then went on to say how nice I looked :/

If you can, kinda know your style and what looks good on you.  I know I need something that is tight up top and flares at my hips or lower… so “fit and flare” works well on me.  I also knew I did NOT want “sexy” and wanted a more “traditional-type” gown.  If you can, take pictures with you.

Don’t get overwhelmed and once you find a dress you love, STOP LOOKING!  I don’t know how many people I’ve seen doubt themselves, change dresses for only a slightly different style, lose deposits, etc because they kept looking at dresses AFTER they found one they loved.

Like Mandy07251 I also bought my dress used and saved over 50% (about $400).  You don’t have to go that route if you don’t want, but if there’s a dress you LOVE that is slightly over budget, you might be able to keep your budget AND get the dress if you can score one used online.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee

Haha yeah I’m the same. I was expecting a dress similar to the one you had posted. Then, then night before going, my fiancé was beside me as I looked at wedding dresses and I’m looking at one I like, and he goes “I don’t like that one at all!” I’m like “Um why not???” He goes “I don’t like them cream…you should be in white, shouldn’t you?” My head goes “ok white is doable in that style. Good to know.” Then he continues “and I hate lace.” I’m like “oh…I love it.” Of course he’s awesome and goes “well if you love it you pick what you want. You’ll be the one wearing it!” But when I went yesterday I tried on some lace dresses and HATED them! I ended up with this dress: (https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/736x/e9/ed/f0/e9edf0e08fcc5e9d8a328d8cefa64ec9.jpg), minus the sash (that’s an add-on), and I’m adding sleeves (I’m large chested and NEED support! Lol)

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

Do your make-up and hair before going dress shopping. You’ll feel more done up and pretty, which helps when you try the dresses on 🙂 

Take pictures of you in every dress – even dresses you don’t like. That way, you can go back through your pictures and figure out what you don’t like about particular dresses and what you do like about particular dresses.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

Agree with everything above:

Wear makeup and at least sort of do your hair.

Be open minded – you don’t know until you try it on and know that alterations are magic. 

As a short bee – DON’T STAND ON THE PEDESTAL. It totally warps how you look in a dress, and proportions can be tricky when you’re short. Make sure you know what it looks like at your own height. 

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

Don’t be afraid to try on something that you don’t think will look good. You can be surprised! My mom picked out a dress for me that I wasn’t thrilled with but agreed to try it on for her. It looked soooo much better on me than on the hanger! It ended up being the one 🙂 It was completely different in almost every way of what I thought I wanted going in though. 

Also, make sure you can move and sit down in whatever gown you choose. 

Post # 15
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Helper bee

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gracendrake:  everyone has already hit the high points so i just wanted to chime in and say HAVE FUN!!! i had so much fun trying on dresses; i was worried it would be a stressful, laborious search but i enjoyed it so much! i’m excited for you!

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