(Closed) First Timer at Dress Shopping

posted 6 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
126 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2016 - Bridgewater Place

I don’t think your hair or makeup matters that much. I’d say wear a strapless bra and be mindful of your panties. The employee is going to see you in your skivvies as she gets you into and out of each dress. Don’t wear black grandma panties because your dress is white. I wore a thong…I don’t care if they have to look at my butt! However, I didn’t have an appropriate bra. The store had one so she saw my boobies too, lol. But the bra they provided was terrible and didn’t give me a good shape. I’d also bring a pair of heels.

Be open to styles they think would look good on you. I really wanted a mermaid but it just didn’t look as good as some other styles. 

I actually didn’t want to look at dresses when I did because I’m almost 70 pounds heavier than I was 3 years ago – so I know how you feel. I wanted to lose some weight before dress shopping but oh well. It was hard in that respect because I wasn’t happy with how I looked and I think some dresses that I really liked would have looked good if I was at my normal size. Don’t get discouraged and and don’t let the first dress that doesn’t flatter you well ruin the day. There’s other dresses that will shave 20 pounds off πŸ™‚ I actually ordered my dress 2 sizes smaller – but I have 2 years to my wedding. This may or may not be a good idea for you.

My main piece of advice is to not let them pressure you. I wouldn’t say that I have dress regret but I wish that I would have waited to buy my dress or even have gone to some other places too. They were very pushy and it was uncomfortable. Also, don’t let other’s opinions sway you too much. There’s a dress I tried on that everyone who was with me LOVED – but I didn’t like it so much. I went with the dress that I loved and they came around πŸ™‚

MOST importantly…have fun and relish the attention! I kinda wish I had gone to more than one place because being pampered is awesome πŸ™‚

Post # 4
240 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’d have to disagree.  I think it’s easer to get that “bridal” feeling with good hair and makeup cause it completely finishes the overal look. 

I am not a girly person.  If I rolled up with dirty hair and my au natural (i.e. zit laden) complexion I would have felt pretty crummy and I wouldn’t have been able to envision myself getting married in ANY dress!!  LOL! Laughing





Post # 6
1075 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Just to add to PP I would wear heels because it’s hard to get the whole picture of a gown when it’s dragging on the ground. 

Post # 9
1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Depending on what store you go to, they might have bras and slips, crinolines. In my case, the store I went to didn’t have the crinoline and I had to imagine what my ballgown could look like if it were fluffed out. I had been to D Bridal, who has them, so when I was at the store that didn’t, I kept pulling the skirts and trying to fluff them myself, so I could imagine what they’d really look like.

So remember that, because I think even some trumpets and mermaids take a low flaring slip. Sometimes dresses look real flat without them and brides might pass them up, but in reality, that crinoline brings the dress to life. 

As far as makeup is concerned, I’m surprised the sales lady told you to do that because you can get makeup all over their sample dresses, depending on how you have to get in the dress. Some dresses go over the head and some you have to step into. So consider that when it comes to doing your hair and makeup.

I always advise brides to video tape themselves in the dresses as well as take pictures. That’s what I did and it really helped me to later view the videos of how the dresses moved, versus looking at a cell phone picture that wouldn’t do the dress justice.

Do not let anyone, including your companion shopper, talk you into or out of a gown. My sisters went with me and friggin tried to talk me into almost every dress I tried on and if I liked a dress, would say, “Okay, that’s it. Let’s go.” or they’d start helping the sales lady talk me into a dress. That’s how I wound up with my dress, but I’m still on the fence as to whether I have dress regret. No matter what anyone says, only listen to your inner voice. I see a 2014 date on your profile, so you have NO REASON whatsoever to make a rash decision.


Post # 10
311 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Aw how exciting πŸ™‚ my advise woul be definitely enjoy all the attention and fun of trying on the dresses but as a victim of dress regret πŸ™ ill say my biggest advise is even if you totally falll head over heels in love with a dress mayou sure you leave the store to think it over, when I went it was the first shop. First dress and I was overwhelmed with excitement I brought it right out! As soon as I stepped out of the shop am into reality I knew I’d made a mistake. Now selling that dress (really not easy) and I will be going dress shopping again later next year closer to the big day! Just remember also as lovely an nice and complimentary the sales assistant is and she will be brilliant at making you feel a million dollars just remember her soul goal is to sell you a dress. The lady that sold me mine was so so lovely the day I purchased…she has actually completely IGNORED me every time iv been in since!! Not very nice :-/ so enjoy yourself, it’s a wonderful experience πŸ™‚ i can’t wait to go again…but I’ll make sure my head is screwed on properly! And won’t be pressured by the sales lady! Good luck! πŸ™‚ 

Post # 13
5423 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2012

just have fun.  dress shoppimg is a blast do not put too much pressure on yourself.

Post # 16
1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013


Oh, you got some pics?


I am not in love with my weight either. I started CrossFit. My nephew has a CrossFit gym in Powder Springs, and so I told him that he could put me on an infant type plan.

My dress is a size 8, but it can barely zip up. Well, that was 4 or 5 months ago. Once I make the final payment and get it, I probably won’t be able to zip it up at all. But I did that on purpose because I am not interested in gaining and gaining weight. I need to get rid of some of these little pockets that keep popping up on my sides.

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