(Closed) First Trimester Experience

posted 8 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

My friend was REALLY sick her first trimester. Barfing ALL the time. She was miserable. She was barfing all the way up to the middle of her 4th month.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Twinstar – these are great questions!

I am one of the few people that had a very easy first trimester in that I never had morning sickness. I did however, have extreme exhaustion. If I was planning a wedding during that time, the exhaustion would have gotten to me for sure. Unfortunately, since everyone’s body is different during pregnancy. there is no way to know for sure whether it will be an easy trimester for you or not. I think it will be a risk you have to be willing to take.

If you are too worried about it, then I would wait until you are closer to the wedding. Because the last thing you want to do is bring on wedding stress during the most crucial months of the pregnancy.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2004

It’s so, so different for everyone. My mom never felt better when she was pregnant; I never felt worse. The first semester with the twins was a nightmare. I felt sick ALL the time–like standing-at-the-toilet-staring-at-it-sick, but hardly ever throwing up (which, honestly, was worse–there was never any relief). Water made me nauseated–I lived for months on Gatorade, Altoids sours, and peanut butter sandwiches that I had to force down. I was more tired than I’ve ever been in my entire life, except for maybe when I had the flu and couldn’t open my eyes (it was about that bad). It wasn’t as bad with my singleton, but it was still pretty rough.

I’ve had friends where it was a nightmare, and friends where it was fine, and friends where one pregnancy was awful, but the next was fine. Unfortunately, you won’t know until you’re there.

Also, it’s not necessarily going to happen on your first try; so be prepared for that, too.

My general advice is not to wait when you know you’re ready… But September’s so close; I don’t know… Would you be willing to call off the wedding if you weren’t up to it, or if there were complications? If the wedding itself isn’t that important to you, then I’d say go for it. But if you want to be assured a nice wedding, where you’re comfortable, and happy, healthy, and awake, I’d probably suggest waiting.

Good luck, with whatever you decide! So exciting!

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

I felt nauseaous and so so sleepy the entire first trimester and into the early 2nd tri.  If you get the bulk of your planning done before the pregnancy, I don’t think it would be that bad, but I could barely get myself to work and home again.  Mr. DG did all the cooking and cleaning while my job was to sleep and whine!

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2007

It’s so different for everyone.  I had a rough go of it.  I was sick from week 6-18 or so.  Very tired with no motivation to do anything.  I’m pretty sure I also suffered from depression during these 2-3 months.  Which stemmed from being so BEHIND in everything in life.  Didn’t help this fell over Dec/Jan so I was behind at work, behind for Christmas, no cooking, no cleaning.  The house was a disaster.  It was a very blah time for me.  Of course I was excited to be expecting – but pretty much miserable otherwise.

Then again there’s my s-i-l that never got physically sick but felt like she has a 3 month hangover.  Of course she was still able to continue her life as a ‘martha stewart’ wannabe with the house clean, dinner made every night, full time job, and keeping up with her 2 year old daughter and all her other activities 🙂

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Mrs Dumpling did it, and she said it was a piece of cake.  I believe she was like 4 months overlapped with the planning/pregnancy.  I know she commented on another post here somewhere about it

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I agree that this totally varies by person.  My first trimester was really bad; I was sick 24/7, threw up like 5 or more times a day, couldn’t do anything (literally, my husband took over everything, and I laid in bed or on the couch from 6 pm to 6 am).  It was miserable…

But once I hit about week 18, things got a lot better.  🙂  I think maybe the first few months wouldn’t be ideal to have wedding, but the second trimester is awesome and I think a wedding would be totally doable at 4-6 months along.  Good luck!

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2008

Unless you are in a huge rush, I would suggest waiting since you have no idea what you will feel like.  I think my first trimester wasn’t that bad – I kept my food down! – but I also generally stopped enjoying eating and would get hit by extreme exhaustion. The kind where you want to do nothing but sit on the couch and sleep. I personally wouldn’t want to plan a wedding like that or get married like that if I had a choice in the matter…..

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper

My first trimester was E-A-S-Y.  No nausea.  No sickness.  I felt tired, but if I took a one hour siesta, I was fine.  I’d just go to bed an hour earlier.  I think it’s just so different for everyone.  My only concern for you wouldn’t be planning the wedding, but the wedding itself.  Some women get “morning” sickness the ENTIRE pregnancy.  It may not be so fun to be puking on your wedding day.  But I can see why you’re anxious to try right away too.  If you don’t mind foregoing the champagne on your wedding day, then go for it!  You may not get pregnant right away anyway, so you may as well get some “practice” in.  Wink

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Given the fact that every woman and every pregnancy is different, I would wait. I’m about 8 wks and if I could stay in my house all day, every day I would. With my oldest daughter, I had morning sickness nearly the whole pregnancy and with my younger one I was super pukey until about 4 mos. Now with this baby, I feel simultaneously nauseous and starving and I just don’t feel like dealing with anyone bc I am so tired. Also, everything stinks to me. I haven’t thrown up, but everything makes me gag. My niece and nephew are over right now and I think they’re super smelly, even though I know they’re not. I couldn’t fake being cheerful right now, even if a shirtless Ryan Reynolds was handing me a million dollar check and telling me he wishes I was having his baby.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2004

@Miss Starlet: “…even if a shirtless Ryan Reynolds was handing me a million dollar check and telling me he wishes I was having his baby.”

I just choked on my lunch. Hahaha!!!

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee

while it varies by person, MOST people get morning sickness…Mine kicked in at 6 weeks, and most people I think it’s like 6-8 weeks.  I was also more tired and of course my boobs grew, etc.  (not sure if you already realize the “weeks” are from your period, not conception…)  So, depending on your cycle, I would aim to be 4-6 weeks if you want…but then, in that case, you usually wouldn’t tell EVERYONE.

If you are determined, though, most people feel better by 12 weeks (mine was 14-15 weeks, though), so you could do that, too, but I’d really try to skip that month and a half where you’d be in the 6-12 week range.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee

oh, and there are some articles online that will give you an idea on how likely you are to have MS…for example, your sisters’/mom’s MS, etc.

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

For those of you who got sick… how did you work?  Was it really bad that you had to call out sick?

I’m about 1.5 years away before we start trying but this one thing I always wondered about.  I only get 10 sick days a year and I know a lot of my friends tried to save their sick days for when they actually have the kid.

Hmmm…

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