Post # 1
Hi!! I just got my BFP three days ago. After three tests, yep Sailor and I are pregnant 9 months into our marriage LOL. We were ready though. He will be a first time dad 2 months before his 34th birthday.
Bees, Im scared! Not of being a mom, but I really want this baby and I don’t want to loose it. How do you stay calm?
Post # 3
Congratulations!!! I just got a BFP recently too 🙂 It’s terrifying and so exciting at the same time isn’t it?! I’m just doing everything I can to be healthy. I’m eating well, trying to be active, taking my prenatals, drinking lots of milk. I’m seeing my doctor for my first prenatal appointment next week, so I’m making a list of questions that have come to mind as well 🙂
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Post # 4
It can be terrifying. The unknown is often scary.
But try to remember that the vast majority of women do not have any problem carrying a pregnancy to term.
Try to focus on the wonderful joyous time that it can be instead of dreading the possibilities.
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Post # 6
There’s not a whole lot you can do (besides the obvious – no caffeine, no alcohol etc during this period of the pregnancy). It is, in large part, up to the genetics of the embryo to decide whether the pregnancy is successful. If you miscarry, it isn’t meant to be, and you will just try again! Almost all 1st trimester miscarriages are because the embryo wasn’t viable independent of things you have control over. So just try to relax and know that you aren’t really in contro of it all – biology is!
Post # 7
@babybuzz: Thank you. Apparenlty I’m due February 26th, but I’m hoping for a March 1st baby!!!
Post # 8
@LuvMySailor: Congratulations! I totally empathize with how you are feeling. I was very nervous during the first trimester… I had already had a loss and wanted baby #2 to stick so badly! Here are some things that helped me a little: (I’m mostly copying and pasting my response from another thread, since I’m lazy, lol)… 1) Knowing that the odds were in my favor… baby was more likely to stick than not. 2) Telling myself that if the worst happened, somehow I’d find a way to handle another loss, even though it was hard to imagine I could survive it. 3) I tried to tell myself that worrying wouldn’t help prepare me for something bad (I’d be upset no matter what), so there was no point. 4) I reminded myself that it was totally out of my control. 5) I prayed and tried to trust that God had a good plan for me.
Luckily, I’ve been a lot less anxious since 12/13 weeks. I still worry, but not nearly as much. Wishing you a happy and healthy 9 months!
Post # 9
There’s not really a lot you can do to keep from worrying honestly. I found journaling to the baby and keeping a blog with weekly updates helped me. It was good for me to have an outlet to voice my fears, and it helped to see the pregnancy progressing every week. And as a bonus, I had my blog printed into a book and now I have an awesome keepsake of my first pregnancy! :o)
Post # 10
Unfortunately, worrying is part of pregnancy. I’ve had 2 losses and am currently almost 28 weeks pregnant with our first and I’m still worried something will go wrong! Just try to keep yourself healthy…get lots of sleep, drink a ton of water (until you feel like you’re going to float away) and call your doctor if anything weird happens. It’s what they’re there for. Hoping for a happy and healthy 9 months for you!
Post # 11
It’s hard not to worry, but when you wake up each day remind yourself you are pregnant. Try to live in the moment a little more and celebrate how your body is changing each day, because for that day you are pregnant and are carrying a little baby. Also try not to set your sights on 12 weeks but try with 6. Once you see the heartbeat usually around 6 weeks your risks go down, and then they go down again after 8. Congratulations on your BFP and I wish you a health happy 9 months.
Post # 12
Congrats! I am 15 weeks and have just started to relax about things going ok. Basically, all you can do is be as healthy as you can and enjoy it! You are going to worry, you are going to fall in love with this baby, and you are going to feel a range of emotions. It’s all natural.
I tried to reassure myself with the stat that 80% of pregnancies result in healthy babies! I still do this 🙂
Post # 13
@jennylynn2313: I’ve been journalling too, although not in a blog, in a private journal on penzu.com. I love it!
@LuvMySailor: I hope you’re feeling better!
Post # 14
I am 31 weeks pregnant with my first baby and I was SO nervous in the beginning. I even had bright red bleeding at 7 and 9 weeks, so that didn’t help the anxiety. Everything turned out fine though and we are now waiting for our baby girl to arrive! I have been measuring great at all my appointments, baby has no issues, I have no issues so all that worrying in the beginning was of course, to be expected, but not I wish I would have relaxed a little. As long as you are staying healthy and eating right you should be just fine. Once you see the heartbeat I think the chance of miscarriage drops below 5%?..or something like that.You could also invest in a doppler to hear baby’s heart whenever you want. I got mine for $50 on Ebay, the Sonoline B and it releived a lot of stress. I don’t need to use it now because she moves all the time, but when they are so little it makes the time in between appointments less stressful. Hang in there, you will be in your third trimester before you know it, wondering where the time went 😉
Post # 15
congratulations, first of all don’t be scared/worried…once i found out i was pregnant i never thought i could lose it and be all terrified…i was happy after it got confirmed at 8 weeks everyone in the family knew and it was all joy.
Post # 16
I completely understand! I’m 14 weeks now and I have been VERY nervous all throughout! Even after hearing the heartbeat and having my first ultrasound! I think it’s normal for the 1st baby and also the hormones make it worse because they can go straight to your brain! 🙂 I have been feeling better since the first trimester once I realized it was very hormonal.
Now I feel like I’m not even pregnant (kind of in-between – feeling less symptoms, but also not yet feeling the baby move) but I’m always wondering if the baby is OK in there and if they are growing OK. I think I will feel better when I can feel the baby move consistently, but even then I’m just hoping I will be.
Take heart and just try to trust the process. I know how hard it is!