- 12 years ago
- Wedding: July 2010
I’m writing for some advice for how to deal with an unfortunate situation with one of my friends. I got engaged a couple of weeks ago and after thinking for two weeks, Fiance and I decided on the size of the wedding party and I took the time to meet with each girl I was asking to be a bridesmaid individually. Well, one of my friends seemed really happy that I asked her and accepted. Fast forward to a couple of days later and I wake up one morning to an e-mail where she tells me that she just thinks that it would be too stressful for her to be a bridesmaid and she would really rather not. Now, I guess I was a little baffled because she didn’t even ask me first what my expectations were for bridesmaids (I’m on the way low end of expectations because I’m pretty type A and not a good delegator; I pretty much just want them to show up in the dress, on time, on the day of the wedding).
So two questions for the hive: 1) how do I deal with my relationship with this girl? One thing I have absolutely decided is that I’m not going to ask her to reconsider. However, she has been a very close friend of mine for over two years and now I just feel completely awkward (is this a friend break up? some other wedding issues?). 2) I don’t have a lot of close girl friends and there isn’t really someone else that I would like to pick, is it ok to have different numbers of bridesmaids and groomsmen (we already had asked all the groomsmen by the time i got the bridesmaid cancellation)? Anyone have any experience with this?