(Closed) First wedding meltdown.

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
1016 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2018

Thats what weddingbee is here for, a place to laugh, vent, share, cry etc.

Yes, when family contributes you should take what they say into consideration but dont let it get out of hand. Dont let it get to a point where you are no longer happy with the wedding you will be having. Try and make sure that the wedding still represents you and you fiance, after all the day is about you two!

Post # 5
1723 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@ms.oregon.state:  I was actually about to say that.  I don’t think it’s zilla ish at all.  It’s YOUR day.  My parents are helping and our “compromise” was I get to pick whatever decor, etc. within reason/budget and she gets to invite whoever she wants because she is paying for them.  That seemed pretty fair to me and I think I will enjoy have a lot of people to celebrate with.  It might be a little larger of a wedding than I originally wanted but I think that’s alright.

Post # 6
715 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Bride and groom should always have final say, even if someone else is footing the bill, if it is something the bride and groom hate, it should not be a part of the wedding!

Post # 8
1199 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@ms.oregon.state: This is how I discovered weddingbee!  I was stressed out about other people’s plans for MY wedding and I think I had talked off the ears of my BMs, FH, and my mom.

Mostly my Future Mother-In-Law, who I normally get along great with, is trying to change my plans for the “stationary” (ie Save-The-Date Cards, invitations, etc) as she owns a stationary business and has been doing this forever.  This is some of what has brought me to tears so far.  Now I try to avoid having these conversations with her as much as possible, until I absolutely HAVE to, just to avoid the drama.

I figure I will find a way to manipulate her into getting basically what I want for my invitations.  Its still your wedding and regardless of who is paying for it, you have to be comfortable with everything.

Good luck!

Post # 9
1046 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Someone offering to foot a bill should understand that it’s more of a gift than promoting yourself to ‘producer’ of a wedding.  It’s something genuinely nice to do for a couple, not a position of power to promote yourself to.

Post # 11
6248 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

Vent away ms.oregon.state !  We are here for you with advice, concern, or even just a listening ear.  Wedding planning is extremely stressful.  (Why do you think wedding planners are able to make lucrative careers out of this? lol) 

*hugs* and hang in there!

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