(Closed) First wedding Nightmare

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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2657 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I dont know.Honestly my Fiance is tired of all the details and plnning,etc.He says just take care of it.So I do.Im planning on meeting up with s cake places.He said just go and decide for us.

Trust me I dont think men can handle the details of the wedding.Once u all settle down,talk and see if he would trust u to decide on the details of the wedding.Because he is obviosly getting frazlzled and probably doesnt know your vision for what u want.Decide on the important things,but then see if hes willing to let u take the wheel so to speak.

My Fiance has told me hes tired of it all,so that what we decided.Frankly Im glad.He was getting on my nerves.He does not understand weddings at.And when he says that he hasnt decided on anything,I then reminded him that I put him in charge of the food,the dj,etc.And in my book those are huge.

So Im getting all I can done now.Get what u can get done.Show him what u plan and then go with it.Sometimes men just cant handle all the wedding stuff.Like he tells me too sometimes,y are u doing this now?I told him that I would rather get what I can done now,then scrambling later!!!!!!!!

We even decided on a couple things to register for and then he told me to go without him when its time.When we prelooked at a store we were interested in,he was soooo bored.So he wants his say,but then sometimes he doesnt.It overwelms him.

Im doing some DIYong projects but I havent even started them yet.Though I need to work on my printers settings and manual.Getting myself familiar with it.I will be printing the save the date magnets and invites.

So do what u can,but remember your Fiance does not have to be there for every purchase or detail,etc.

Good luck!!!

Post # 5
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1 posts
Wannabee

@flutterbi: I’ve had several, completely ridiculous nightmares!!! In one, I didn’t have a dress, and I was in a dress store…my BMs were all walking down the aisle in another room and I was frantically trying on dresses..I looked out into the other room and there were no guests!!! I cried because no none would help me try on a ghastly hot pink gown..ugh…

In another, just last night, my family brought packs of hot dogs for my reception-wth-and I had a Southern Belle style blue dress on and no bridesmaids…then my father yelled at me for calling off the wedding, saying” Do you know how much we paid for these hot dogs?!?”

 

We’ve only been engaged since 5/15/2011……..the wedding is tenatively set for next June…

But already with the nightmares? Could be because no one in my family has even acknowledged the engagement except for a “that’s nice”…

Post # 6
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2542 posts
Sugar bee

I’m not getting married for another 10 months and I’m already having nightmares. My most recent one was that we had gotten married and it was the next day and I couldn’t remember the day at all! And I couldn’t find FH anywhere! Haha. I’ve also had nightmares about being late to the wedding, my dress not fitting, and no one coming even though they all RSVPed yes!

Post # 7
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1962 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@flutterbi: Reading your original post made me cringe a little because I have a lot of stress dreams that feel the way you described. 

I know I’ve had wedding nightmares, but I can’t remember anything too specific. I think they usually involve stress over not having everything done or not having a deposit paid for something. I’m thinking that if I get worse nightmares they will probably happen closer to the wedding when things start coming together. I’ve just recently decided to to a degree change so most of my stress dreams have been career orientated rather than about the wedding day.

Post # 8
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1401 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@flutterbi: Ohhh yes, I have had those about 9 months out. I dreamed the venue didn’t start decorating the reception until everyone was already there–everyone was standing around complaining, I was frantically calling the florist trying to figure out where she was, frantically explaining to a “hell if I care” hotel employee how to put stuff on the tables, frantically calling the band and the linen/chair rental company to figure out where they were.. My dress was muddy and my hair was a mess from running around, my Fiance kept saying, it’s okay, it’s just a wedding anyway, my mom kept asking me why things were taking so long, and my guests kept giving me the evil eye since nothing was ready and it was 2 hours late… eek. 

I think it’s probably time to step away from WB, go for a walk, and engage in real life for a bit. I know for me the stress came from too much wedding planning and too much input! It’s easy to freak out when you’re reading everyone else’s things that go wrong!

Post # 9
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466 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Dont worry, I am just over 11 months and I had one the other day… mine was that not a single person turned up! I was in my dress sitting on the floor waiting for people to get there and nobody did! It wasnt very nice

Glad to know someone else is having them this early!

Post # 10
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1309 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I had a wedding nightmare about a year ago when we hadn’t even decided on a date. I dreamt that I was really late to my wedding and was trying to get a babysitter for my Dirty Delete and nobody would help. Then I got to the church and my mother says she will do my make up and paints my whole face green and I didn’t have time to clean it off. That’s pretty much when I woke up.

Post # 11
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6 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think it’s pretty normal to have wedding nightmares. I have had a few about getting to the venue and it not being set up because we hadn’t paid for it, and lots of other things not being paid for as well and all my vendors not turning up.

Post # 12
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197 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I had them a lot when I first started planning my wedding.  From crazy yellow, zebra striped bridesmaids dresses to my Fiance not showing up.  Yeah, I had some crazy ones.  I am a month away from the wedding and I don’t have them anymore, I think I am over the planning stage and just want to be married now!

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