(Closed) first wedding related flipout (long)

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Oh, wow!!

I would start posting on review sites about how rude she was to you! 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

And file a BBB complaint as well!  Good thing she wasn’t dealing with me, I am peri-menopausal and would have shredded that wench into tiny little quivering pieces.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Don’t let mean vendors ruin your planning experience. Thankfully I only encountered one vendor who made me feel that way, but she was overpriced and under-talented, so I moved on, but it did smart for a day or two. I also think you should write reviews warning other brides about this horrible woman!

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I’m so sorry!  Please know that the one vendor that may not be as warm and fuzzy is caterers. That is not to say that 1. she should have treated you with anything but respect and care and 2. there aren’t super nice caterers out there.

i had an awful catering experience (CT as well) that I flew 3,500 miles and a two hour car ride to experience with my mother and fiance. We had all taken the day (or for us, week) off work and they really wasted our time.

I would send the letter, the BBB and post on the boards.  They should know that one person’s negative experience can really hurt their business.

Are you still looking? PM me if you’d like to chat more!  Hang in there!

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

So sorry to hear about this! I absolutely hate being treated like this and it reminds me of a similar situation when Fiance and I were shopping for rings. The sales woman at Tiffany’s was completely rude, tapping her pen on the counter impatiently and then told us, “next time make an appointment to learn about rings” (meanwhile I knew exactly which one I wanted!). I raised high hell and wrote letters to that store’s manager and anyone else’s contact info I was able to get and got apologies from all of them within 48 hours. 

I think it’s important for you to post your review wherever you can. Those positive reviews you’re seeing might be on sites where they can delete negative reviews, or maybe people encountered other representatives from that caterer instead of the one you met with? Either way she and the company need to know they were in the wrong to treat you that way.

Don’t let it ruin your wedding planning experience though. She’s just a miserable rude woman who took out her issues on you. Sometimes I feel like people like this can sense who the sensitive ones are (us!) and they tend to bully you even more. Think of it this way–at least you realize how rude she is now, and not somewhere down the line when they already have your money! It’s definitely their loss that they won’t be getting your business. Good luck with the other caterers and vendors!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Wow…I’m glad you found a better vendor though.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

Im so sorry you had to deal with someone like that, especially while sharing your vision for your wedding.  You said you went to catering companies – why in the world would she want to talk about linens when meeting with you for the first time?  That would be something to discuss closer to the wedding, AFTER you had contracted with them.  You are meeting them to talk about the food.  I completely agree that you should contact either the President of the company, or even her supervisor and tell them what happened.  I agree its an awful way to start out your planning but I agree with you family and fiancee, try to put it behind you.  Hopefully every other vendor you deal with will be completely opposite of that lady.  And I love what your Fiance said about the sun 🙂 Good luck!

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010 - The Tower Club

I’ve also run into some awful wedding vendors. I don’t know if it’s because the wedding industry attracts these characters, or if it’s that the few “bridezillas” out there ruin things for the rest of us. I don’t know, but it’s awful and unfair and, unfortunately, happens all the time. I’m so sorry someone made you feel so awful!

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

That sounds HORRIBLE! You poor girl!!

If you dont mind me asking – what catering company did you decide to go with?  I used to work for one in CT, and I’m pretty familiar with the companies aroud here….and if you need ANY recommenations at all please let me know!!!

As a fellow CT bride…please please please let me know if there’s anything you need!

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