(Closed) First year of the marriage is the hardest? So far, true…

posted 10 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Which answer describes you and your SO best?

    dream couples that has always been in the honeymoon stage, still has butterflies, and rarely argues

    Has issues and arguments that we need to work out from time to time which helps us grow.

    Other (explain below)

  • Post # 32
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    31 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I picked the first one because honestly, married life has been incredibly easy for us. We’ve been married for just over a year and we rarely argue. There are tons of things to be stressed about (planning another wedding, not having jobs, being ridiculously broke, family issues, etc) but we have made sure to include God in all of our decisions and only through Him have we been so blessed. I am not so naive as to think it will always be easy, but I know that we’ll get through everything and anything with work, commitment, love, and communication. It helps that we’re best friends and want to hang with each other all day! Remember: there will always be hard times and good times–keep on truckin’ ladies!

    Post # 33
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    4544 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

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    @mrsmdphd: Your post reminds me so much of where my husband and I are now. He can’t stand it if something is wrong in my life and feels like he has to fix it and make me happy, even if it’s beyond his control. And right now it is (my job situation, things with my family, etc) and he doesn’t know what to do and feels helpless and frustrated. He just wants me to be happy and feels frustrated when I’m not!

    Post # 34
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    1701 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    We were together for 8 years and lived together for probably about 6 of those…..so far (at 6 months) the first year has not been the hardest.  I would say it has been our best, but we really haven’t had to deal with any big issues this year (like buying a house, moving, having a baby, death in the family, changing jobs, new job, new money problems).  I think probably the first year is tough for people because many people go through some of the aforementioned difficult situations. 

    Post # 35
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    6 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    @mrsmdphd : I think my husband is going through that; he’s killing himself over his CPA exam right now…I think there’s some “must provide everything” instinct in him right now.  Sadly, it’s wearing us both out pretty badly.  Thanks for sharing.  Maybe I’ll talk to him about it?  If I can ever drag him from that stupid textbook?  

    I’m so glad I’m not the only one out there who’s finding marriage exhausting.  I’m glad I’m married, and glad that I married DH, but good lord that boy does wear me out.

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