(Closed) FI’s attitude is making me question the whole thing

posted 8 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
967 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Ask him why he went out in the street to talk on the phone…that is odd behaviour and deserves an explanation.

Post # 4
3870 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

You guys need to talk. You should each lay out all of your concerns/questions and be honest. It is strange behavior. He should be talking to you if he has concerns.

Post # 5
2063 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

If he’s talking to people that will apart of/at the wedding, I would assume it is a surprise having to do with the event. 

Post # 6
43 posts
  • Wedding: September 2012

I agree, very odd behavior.  I’d ask him about the walking outside to talk.  It could be guy stuff tho.  


My Fiance is HORRIBLE at doing ANYTHING for the wedding. 

Just yesterday, I went from calm and discussing an issue, to angry and yelling, because he was trying to mention the cost of the engagment photos, but called it, that expensive groupon thing you made me get.  

But in the end, he appolized and made it all better.  

His part of the guest list, it was like pulling teeth.  I could be a dentist now. 

Next dentist session will be getting him to pick the music for the wedding.  Which he agreed to do, but just hasn’t gotten done!


Post # 7
3218 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

if he’s marrying you, you get to know what’s going on in these random phone calls.  now I’m curious!  unless it’s some fun surprise for you or work-related confidentiality, I don’t see why he needs to go outside…

Post # 8
894 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

When I first started reading your post I had to double check and make sure I didn’t write it in the middle of the night or something, lol! My Fiance has been absolutely horrible with helping me do anything for the wedding. Our wedding is 3 months away and he just now asked his family when they are flying in (which I asked him to do back on Spetember) and I am also waiting on addresses among other things. Anyway, I think he may just be venting or letting off steam. Fiance and I have both acknowledge that our relationship has been very tense and will continue to be very tense until the wedding (aka stress) is behind us. If I were you I would staright out ask him why he had to go outside to have the conversation and ask him if there is anything he needs to get off of his chest. I have noticed that even though my Fiance may not doing much his stress level builds as mine does and sometimes we just need to vent to each other about each other and 5 minutes later we are fine.

Post # 9
887 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Maybe it was his bachelor party? It sounds like you need to have an honest, sit-down conversation. And I would definitely bring up the strange phone conversation behavior while you’re at it! It seems like you’re putting in a ton of work for the wedding and he’s being a slacker 🙁 I’m sorry!

Post # 10
574 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Maybe he needed to vent or get guy advice?  Maybe he is planning a surprise or something special for a honeymoon?  Either way, if you’re bothered by it, say something.  You won’t find out the truth without asking for it.

Post # 12
995 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@FutureMrsEAG:  maybe they’re talking about the bachelor party?

and maybe he wanted a big wedding for you, but as a man he had no idea what the entailed

I say talk about it, the wedding is for both of you but naturally as the bride you are going to be bogged down with the details of the planning


From a guys POV, it is way too early to start measuring for tux’s –they don’t know how far  in advance you have to plan weddings


Talk to him about it-go over your to do list and show him what his responsibilities are

Post # 13
602 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

i hate the whole “silent treatment” things “/

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