(Closed) FIs aunt throwing kids bday party same day as our wedding should I be annoyed?

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 46
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Her plan will backfire. No one will want to go to a teenagers bday party (THEY probably don’t even want to go to a party their mom is throwing them!) over your wedding 

helloooo delicious food & booze & happy couple > loud children

Post # 47
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Worker bee

Dear Crazy Auntie –

Please remember, you are raising teenagers.  That means you ought not act like a teenaged girl.

The only place for family adults at a sweet 16 party is to lock up the alcohol, prevent one on one or group groping (YesSnakes’s Dad’s quote), keep food coming and keep the house intact and not burnt to the ground.

Sincerely, 

Mr Snakes, a high school science teacher and baseball coach

Background – I was a theater tech in HS. We were crashed at my house after we struck the set, watching horror movies with lights off.  My dad comes downstairs, turns the light on, announces “No group groping!”, turns the light off and leaves. It was oddly effective. 

Post # 48
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Maybe the teens are actually thilled and this is all a part of a big plan. They want a 16th birthday party and they feel like they have to invite their family (aunts, uncles etc) but don’t actually want them to attend. Hmmm, what to do…oh! We’ll have it on the same night as the wedding! That way we invite everyone we are meant to but they won’t come and we can have an awesome party with friends! 

Post # 49
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Church

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future.mrs.koban:  I think that anyone would be irritated by the stunt your FI’s aunt has pulled. That is so low. However, I would just not say anything except to sound off on your Fiance because obviously even her husband probably thinks that this is wrong. I feel for her kids because they are the only ones who are going to be hurt by this (I assume that usually there is a friend party and then a family party). What a stupid stunt to pull. Oh well, it doesn’t sound like you will miss her anyway and at least it is still enough time for you to adjust your numbers with the caterer, I hope.

Post # 52
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Worker bee

You are completely justified. But I’ll admit… I would take so much joy in knowing that aunt is making a fool of herself. She deserves it 10 times over. Unprovoked family drama is one thing, but now she is ASKING for it.

She’s doing this to get a reaction out of you and the most unsatisfying thing for her would be to get NO RESPONSE whatesoever. The best thing to do is to go on and fully enjoy your day. She will eventually regret her decision to screw her family over (or at least I hope she will). 

Think of it this way: You don’t like her. Your Fiance doesn’t care if she’s there. Her husband obviously can’t stand her. This is a very, very good thing. 

CONGRATULATIONS! I hope you have the most beautiful, joyful, memorable wedding day! 

Post # 54
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

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future.mrs.koban:  Lol this whole thing is hilarious (but totally irritating too for its childishness). She looks like an idiot, her husband chooses to not go to his kids’ bday party, and the poor 16-year-olds (who were probably looking FORWARD to a night away from this mother) now have a party chaperoned by mommy. Haha-you and your Fiance are totally the winners in this situation…and maybe your FI’s uncle. 

ETA: Lol…leaving the place card out would be funny as she did RSVP yes and then back out. I’d still take the high road though. 

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Post # 56
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

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future.mrs.koban:  Lol extra wine is never bad. 

Post # 57
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Worker bee

@future.mrs.koban I think some extra wine sounds fantastic. I don’t mean to seem cruel, but it looks like her husband’s blatant disregard for their wedding vows/fidelity will be offputting enough for her.

Post # 58
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014 - Historic cinema

 

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future.mrs.koban:  Any update on crazy Aunty?!

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