Post # 1
I am irrationally annoyed by this. My Fiance is having his bachelor party at our home. I should be happy he is doing something low key, no bars and no strippers/strip club etc but I’m still annoyed. He invited all of his boys here for his party, which will mean some of the boys will be here all weekend and most everyone is at least sleeping over the night of the party. !
They are golfing all day, then a steak dinner and then coming to our house for a BBQ/drinks. I truly hope he has a fun day and enjoys himself but I wish he would have asked me and asked me if the date was even ok with me. Also I need to make arrangements for our dog to be elsewhere for the night, I’m afraid drunk boys won’t pay attention to him and he will get out or get hurt/get into food or drink that he shouldn’t be eating. I’m also a teeny bit worried about the boys drinking and then building a fire/”playing” with the tiki torches on the patio.
I guess I’m annoyed bc he just told his Bridesmaid or Best Man any weekend was fine and just plan the party and didn’t bother asking me if I was ok with people staying here/cleaning/figuring out dog stuff/not being home for the night. I think the not being home for the night thing annoys me the most, where did he think I would even go? Grrr anyway my Maid/Matron of Honor has decided to plan my bachelorette for the same night so we will be out bar hopping most of the night and then will come back to Fiance and I’s place to sleep so it will all turn out fun and we will both have a great night. I’m venting here so I don’t complain to Fiance over what is probably nothing 🙂
Post # 3
Look at this way he isn’t bar hoping! And this is exactly what my Darling Husband did for his bach party. He and his buddies/brothers/ and dad. Had a golfing day then out to eat and back here for poker tourney. We just had my bachlorette that same weekend. The girls took me to a resort town for the weekend.
We also have a cat, so I get what you mean by not paying attn. I was worried that with the guys paying poker in the garage that with going in and out of the house to the garage the cat would sneak out. Nothing happened to the cat. She just hid for most of the time.
All in all it worked out fine for us.
Post # 4
Haha I just had it out with Fiance over this! He wants to do a bbq and then take a party bus bar hopping, and our house is the biggest of any of the GM’s, so his Bridesmaid or Best Man decided we were just going to have the party here. I said abso-freakin-lutely NOT. I’m the most laid back girl ever about the bachelor party- go to the bar, go to strip clubs, I don’t care. Just don’t try to kick me out of my own house or make me clean so you can have your party! Plus if the party bus starts here, it also ends here, and I don’t want 30 drunk dudes passed out around my house. I told him this is the time where one of the guys needs to step up and have it at their house, or they need to get a hotel room in the city. I even said I’d take in the displaced wife/SO for the day, kids and all, no matter which poor SO they kick out of her house for the day. But I’ll be damned if he’s having that party here.
Post # 5
@Sassygrn: I’m sure it will work out fine…I am sending the dog to my parents house though bc he will definitely be ignored by the guys and he’s MY baby so I need to take care of him 🙂 Fiance means well but if the dog wanders off he won’t notice.
@pinkfrog: It bothers me how they just don’t THINK of course Fiance says absolutely have the party here, any weekend in June is fine! Really you don’t think to consult the other person who LIVES here? I am the one who cleans/shops etc so guess who is going to be asked to buy snacks, clean up and probably strip beds/wash sheets after the boys leave? NOT fair! Are you having your bachelorette the same night as him?
Post # 6
Set some ground rules! They break it, they buy it. They clean up. They take the recyling so you don’t look like lushes (haha!) I don’t mean this the way it’s going to come across (I swear!) but you sound a bit like you’re being more motherly than fiance-y (that’s a word, right?!). He’s a big boy. He won’t set your house on fire. Would you set the house on fire when you’re drunk? Doubtful! I can go along with the dog thing–I’d worry, too, and I think it’s smart that the baby is going somewhere else! I get that you’re venting…smart girl coming to us instead! I think you’re doing the right thing in noting that he’s not going out having some girl rub her knockers in his face! If they’re a little loud, just put some cookies on the neighbors porch the next day…and if the house is wrecked, have him deliver them ;o) Muahahahahaha
Post # 7
@Mars62312: The fire thing is actually a legit concern lol, we had an incident last year with the tiki torches on our patio 😉
Post # 8
I think you need to chill. Trust your FH. Be glad he’s not doing something entirely crazy. He should’ve talked to you about the day first, but it’s not that big of a deal. Don’t get upset over something small. How much longer away is the party? Surely ya’ll can find someone to watch the dog before then.
Post # 9
@Ballet513: OMG, hilarious.
Post # 10
I agree that it’s inconsiderate to have a party at your own house and not invite you or check first to make sure you’re ok with it. That being said, if you would have been ok with it if he had asked first, then you should address his lack of consideration and not stress about the actual party.
You should also make a list of things that need to be done before/after the party and make it clear that you will not be lifting a finger.