(Closed) FI’s best man plans wedding 2 weeks before ours, very tricky situation

posted 12 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Would you ask your already engaged MOH or BM if your date (same month) was inconvenient for them?

    Yes

    No

  • Post # 17
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Try not to worry about it. I know at first it can be a shock! I had something very simular happen,(SAME DATES LOL) my wedding on the 3rd of July, and then my brother being much more recently engaged picked the 17th.  I was more or less worried about mutual friends and more importantly family being able to make both.  You can work with two weeks. I know it may be tricky with Honeymoons and what not. My Fiance and I have to fly back a little early from ours to make it to there wedding, and then back to the State where we live. Like others have said, try to remember its there day too, could always be worse, could be the same day or only a week inbetween which would shorten a honeymoon even more! I have faith it will all work out for you as it did for me! Best of luck!

    Post # 18
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    Wannabee
    • Wedding: February 2010

    I am kind of thinking the same with the majority that you get one day and one day only, and their wedding day is their wedding day.  I don’t know why people get upset when someone else’s wedding is planned close to theirs.  If it really is not convenient for YOU then your Fiance should have declined being the best man, or decline going at all.  Everyone has their own lives, and it does sound like they were trying to suit your needs as well.

    Post # 19
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I know this thread is quite old, but I am curious how things turned out Mystia? I am facing a sort-of similar situation right now, and insight would be great.

    Post # 20
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    283 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Muckenthaler Cultural Center
    Post # 21
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @yaena:  I honestly would go about your planning and not let someone else’s date worry you. You get one day. 

    DH’s had been keeping his propsal secret from EVERYONE, literally no one knew. DH’s friend proposed to his girlfriend of almost 2 years, they set their date, and asked DH to be the best man (and me their photographer!). About a month later, DH propsosed to me after 12 years together. We *agonized* over a date, and ultimately had no choice but to pick our date 2 weeks after his friend, or wait a whole nother year. After 12 years together, I was not waiting another year. 

    I was concerned they would be upset we were getting married so close, but you know what, our date isn’t at all significant to us – other than it was literally the ONLY date we could get a venue that our officient could marry us and that would work with our jobs. His friend was also a Groomsmen in our wedding.

    Post # 22
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

    You know far enough in advance that you can plan not to be busy on their wedding day. Get planning! that is, if you’re even still invited after you sent them that e-mail

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