(Closed) FI’s best man/only brother can’t come to wedding, now FI has no groomsmen… :(

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

Is his father in the picture? I lost TWO different Maid/Matron of Honor for my destination wedding and just had my mother stand up there with me. 

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Do you have a brother?  Maybe he could ask him?

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

If it were me, I would ask the 2 BMs to step down (reimbursing them if they bought dresses) and only have an Maid/Matron of Honor.  That way, if he does get a best man later down the line, it will be even, but at the very least, you have your Maid/Matron of Honor to help you.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I’d just go sans wedding party.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@MissHelen: agreed. What’s the matter with no party? 

 I’m sorry this happened but honestly it’s a job in Japan…. this guy can’t do much. 🙁 Unfortunately it looks like life goes on… 

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

The girls could also walk down by themselves. At one of my friends wedding, she had two groomsmen but for some reason, they wound up standing by the alter and us BMs walked down the aisle by ourselves. The aisle was small anyway so it wasn’t a big deal.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I understand, sorry if I sounded harsh! FH and I are in a similar situation right now. he has no friends to be groomsmen… so we are not having a wedding party. 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee

Do you yourself have any male friends that could stand on his side? Or perhaps a spouse of one of the BMs or MOH? If you do, I would go with that.

 

If not, maybe skip out on having a wedding party and give your best friend who was supposed to be the Maid/Matron of Honor a different special job – perhaps doing a reading or something?

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Can you postpone the wedding? I know that you can’t arrange your wedding around other’s schedules, but if your Fiance really wants his brother & best friend there, that’s what I’d look into. Not sure what you have booked so far?

If that’s not an option, you could have a vow renewal or something around your 1 year anniversary & his brother & friend would hopefully be able to come. Then it would feel like he got to share the day with you :).

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Kant: So sorry for you both. Is there a way for his brother to ask up front for the time off? some jobs will approve vacations in the offer process.

 

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Since his bro can’t be there, maybe you can Skype him in.  More and more ppl are being creative.

I had a MOH but Darling Husband didn’t have a Bridesmaid or Best Man or Groomsmen.  He didn’t want any.  Since you already have your party, I would just have the ladies sit down after you make it to the alter.   For pictures, I took a pic w/ my Maid/Matron of Honor and he could’ve cared less.  I guess because we are both in our 40s, we only wanted ppl to show up and be there for our joyous occasion.

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