Post # 1
My Fiance just got a call from his brother D, who lives accross the country from us. Airfare has gotten too expensive and he won’t be able to fly his family to our wedding. There’s still a chance that D will come by himself, which would be great, but his son and daughter, who were to be our ringbearer and flower girl, won’t be coming to the wedding.
I’m just so sad for my Fiance, who has a small family as it is and now will be missing 3 or 4 more members on our wedding day, and I’m also sad for my Future Mother-In-Law who doesn’t get to see her grandkids very much and rarely sees all her sons together anymore. I am also a little annoyed because we asked D so many times, are you sure you can come, and he insisted yes, but apparently never looked at his finances until today. Mostly though I’m just disappointed.
I just thought this might be a good place to turn to get out my feelings. Thanks for listening.
Post # 3
Sorry to hear that things didn’t work out. Try to remember that it’s ultimately your day and that 10 years from now, you want to remember only good things! Congratulations on your upcoming wedding!
Post # 4
MissAlbany – I’m so sorry… that is a major disappointment for all of you (including them) right before the wedding. I know this would be a big expense, but is it possible that your Future Mother-In-Law would be willing to chip into the travel costs?
Also, if they do end up being unable to come, maybe you can set up a webcast (or even a really low-tech and cheap version with Skype or something…?) so they can still be part of it.
Best of luck with everything and have a wonderful day… we’re just a little ways away from each other (geographically and wedding-chronologically! 🙂
Post # 5
Oh MissA, I’m so sad for you and especially for your Fiance. I’m sure his brother is heartbroken that they can’t afford to be there.
Post # 6
sorry to hear this news so close to your wedding day…….if there is someone recording the ceremony….even if its just a diy job, try to get copies out to them.
i understand this situation and may be making a difficult decision of my own. i have a cousin getting married the Thursday before you and honestly right now, i have no idea where the money is going to come from to afford the gas for the trip ($300-400 depending on gas prices then). i’ll be getting married a mere 3 wks after her, so understandably a lot of my money is tied up). try to understand that this is not bc he or his family dont want to be there…..i am sure they are heartbroken as well…..just as the fmil and other family dont get to see them, neither does your fbil’s family get to see the grandmother and others either…..
Post # 7
Obviously it’s tough on everyone in this economy, esp. with wedding planning (!) but maybe the family could chip in and help with the airfare? It’s such a big occasion and I’m sure your Future Mother-In-Law and Fiance would love to have more family there.
Post # 8
Would it be possible for some family members to lend/donate some money to his cause in leiu of a wedding present to you? If it really is that important to you that he be there, maybe you could ask some family members for assistance.