Post # 1
So as we have just gotten engaged, FI’s older brother is going through a divorce. He has been one of the kindest people I have ever met and has been so positive and supportive through this process. I am really thankful for all his support (FI made Future Brother-In-Law the best man) but I am wondering how much I should really involve him in the wedding.
Bees, what is the sensitive thing to do? Fiance claims that having Future Brother-In-Law help with the wedding planning would only make him happy and take his attention off his difficult time. However, I’m still a little worried about it…I don’t really have a clue what is appropriate.
Post # 3
I would have your Fiance talk to his brother about what he wants to be involved with in the wedding. It’s the only way to prevent hurt feelings I think. If you don’t involve him, he could be upset but if you ask he, he could this it’s insensitive. Therefore, just ask.
Post # 4
Let your FH handle this one. Even if you’re close with his brother, he likely knows him on a much deeper level and will decide what’s best. Maybe being involved in your wedding will take his mind of things; just because he is separating from his wife doesn’t mean he can’t be ecstatic that his brother has found a wife. 🙂
Post # 5
I agree with the PPs. My best friends got married a while back while her sister was going through a divorce. Well, her sister was supposed to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man but she backed out a few weeks before the wedding because she couldn’t handle the emotional stress and pain she was enduring. I bet if he wants to help out and be involved, he genuinely wants to. If he didn’t, I am sure he would either back out or you could obviously tell he wasn’t into it…