(Closed) FI's childhood female friend — bridesmaid or groomswoman?

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 16
289 posts
Helper bee

Personally, I would make her a hybrid bridemaid/groomswomen and include her on your side during the ceremony. You guys are coming together as one, and these friends are important to you. If someone is that important to your fiance, she is also important to you (plus you like her and have spent a lot of time with her). I’d have her stand up on your side, but let her participate in any or all groomsmen and bridesmaid activities. You can have her in some of the groomsmen pictures too, if she would like that.

Or, why don’t you invitie her to be in the wedding and then ask which role she would like to have? 

Post # 17
1358 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Banquet Hall/Conference Center

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nalastardust :  Since she is close to both, it can go either way. Here’s a compromise – have her be a groomswoman and wear a matching dress but in a grey color or whatever matches the groomsmen outfits. But have her maybe stand on your side instead of his if you’re worried about balancing? She can decide whose speech to give or whose activities she wants to participate in but give her all options so if she wants, she can do all or half.

Post # 19
506 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

In my situation, each of us has 2 women, 2 men.  For photos, we are doing pictures with me and the girls, him and the guys, me and my 4 people, him and his 4 people.  They will be introduced by side, but at the ceremony, girls will be on one side, guys on the other…Personally I dont care where people stand, but it is important to FH, so I’m going to indulge him on this.

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