Post # 16
Personally, I would make her a hybrid bridemaid/groomswomen and include her on your side during the ceremony. You guys are coming together as one, and these friends are important to you. If someone is that important to your fiance, she is also important to you (plus you like her and have spent a lot of time with her). I’d have her stand up on your side, but let her participate in any or all groomsmen and bridesmaid activities. You can have her in some of the groomsmen pictures too, if she would like that.
Or, why don’t you invitie her to be in the wedding and then ask which role she would like to have?
Post # 17
- Wedding: August 2018 - Banquet Hall/Conference Center
Since she is close to both, it can go either way. Here’s a compromise – have her be a groomswoman and wear a matching dress but in a grey color or whatever matches the groomsmen outfits. But have her maybe stand on your side instead of his if you’re worried about balancing? She can decide whose speech to give or whose activities she wants to participate in but give her all options so if she wants, she can do all or half.
Post # 18
Thanks everyone for your input!! Some clarification — she and my Fiance are definitely not best friends, really by any stretch of the imagination. If they were super close, I would be a lot more sure about her being on his side. They were both members of a close group growing up together, but for the past ~10 years since they graduated high school, they communicate via group messaging and hang out as a group when everyone is back in town. FI’s groomsmen are also a part of this group message and group hangout, and for the past two years, I have been as well.
I like the idea of asking her which role she’d feel more comfortable in — thanks bees! That’s a good solution 🙂
Post # 19
In my situation, each of us has 2 women, 2 men. For photos, we are doing pictures with me and the girls, him and the guys, me and my 4 people, him and his 4 people. They will be introduced by side, but at the ceremony, girls will be on one side, guys on the other…Personally I dont care where people stand, but it is important to FH, so I’m going to indulge him on this.