(Closed) FI’s cousins bridal shower

posted 6 years ago in Parties
  • poll: What do you make of her intentions? Should I send something even though I can't attend?
    She is trying to get more presents : (2 votes)
    3 %
    She's trying to be nice! : (33 votes)
    52 %
    Send something : (14 votes)
    22 %
    Its not expected to send a gift : (15 votes)
    23 %
  • Post # 4
    Member
    751 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I think sometimes as a bride or the Bridesmaid or Best Man who is planning the shower, you’re given a list of names and you just send invites. There’s a few people I’m inviting even though I know they can’t make it because I was told by my family that it was to show we were thinking of them. I don’t know if I’d put them down for shower invites though…

    Post # 5
    Bee
    1433 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House

    I think she was probably being nice.  I included my cousin’s girlfriend on the shower invite list I gave to our bridal party, because I know that they will be getting engaged and buying a house right around the wedding… and I wanted to let her know that I consider her “family”.  She’s definetley the girly type who really enjoys showers, though.  

    Post # 6
    Member
    1562 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Sometimes the person throwing the shower just invites all the women in the family without thinking of their location… it’s more to be nice.  I don’t think it’s a gift grab.  I’d send a little something, though.

    Post # 7
    Member
    2786 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I know my Maid/Matron of Honor just invited everyone who was invited to the wedding…I get the feeling that’s what most BMs do. Personally I wouldn’t think there was too much more to it than that.

    Post # 8
    Member
    4464 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    I don’t think you should read too much into the invitation. Girls or family that I was close to got onto my shower guest list for inclusion purposes and because I didn’t want to leave anyone off. I didn’t expect a gift from any of them and I didn’t get one from any of them. This included my aunts and cousins and my husband’s aunts and cousins. 

    Post # 9
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    10288 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I agree with the PP’s. Most traditional showers include a good chunk of the female guests who are invited to the wedding. I doubt they expect you to attend but they wanted to still include you. Unless the bride is oober gift grabby, the invite probably had nothing to do with getting a gift.

    Post # 10
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    701 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I think it’s not a “for sure” that you wouldn’t be able to attend, an hour plane ride is what like 3-4 hours drive? For some people that’s not that long (raises hand) so she might have wanted to give you the option.

    I think they were being nice

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