(Closed) FI's ex coming to the wedding

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 4
549 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

MRS_Anderson0426:  maybe the sister doesn’t even know her parents added her on. 

Either way, I would call them or tell you BM to tell them unfortunately you had to make some tough calls and because you just aren’t as close with huge sister she’s not invited. If they know she dated your FI they will probably realize what a weird position they put you in. 

Post # 2
6042 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2017

You need to put your foot down and simply say “we only reserved two seats for you and your husband. Due to limitations on our guest list, we aren’t in a position to accomodate any extra guests.”  end of story.


Post # 3
1483 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

MRS_Anderson0426:  Why can’t you contact her parents and say that you’re sorry but you’re maxed out on space at the venue, so you can’t accommodate their other daughter? 

Post # 5
6908 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Well the truth is, even if you’re actively planning a wedding, it’s only a 50/50 shot that you’ll understand the secret language of names on envelopes as it relates to who is invited to what. Nobody knows that stuff outside of weddingbee and it’s so random that no one would think to look it up. Give the family a call and explain that you’re sorry you can’t celebrate with everyone but you can only extend the invite to the parents. Don’t go into space constraints or budgets because that only invites negotiation.

Post # 6
330 posts
Helper bee

I would just politely reply and say that due to venue constraints and the current guest list, you are unable to extend her a seat to the wedding.. done. I dont know why she would want to come anyways. that weird… Talk it over with your FI (and your BM if you feel comfortable doing that)

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