(Closed) FI’s ex sent a facebook message…why do women do this?

posted 10 years ago in Emotional
Post # 128
265 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Hahahahaha! Everyone’s already commented on how inappropriate and weird this is, so all I have to say is this is the most pretentious Facebook message I’ve ever read! 

Post # 129
7298 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I wouldn’t stress about it. Ask him to block her and be done with it. 

Post # 130
338 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

That’s awesome that your fiance told you about it right away, knowing how you feel about her.. he sounds like a stand up guy.  

A girl my Fiance used to really like before we were together, but never dated (they were good friends at one point & he was friends with her long time boyfriend, so he never attempted anything, but she totally used him to meet other guys while her & her bf were on a ‘break’ at some point in college), pulled something similar.  She & her long time (like 5 or 6 years) boyfriend broke up, and she never could really find the time to hang out with my Fiance or any of their other friends in that group anymore because she was always “so busy” with her school stuff & her sorority, but as soon as her & her bf broke up 1 summer while Fiance and I were dating, she messaged him online (when aol instant messenger was still pretty popular) & was like, “Hey! I’m single again!”  FI acknowledged he had heard, & the girl goes “But I don’t want to talk about it.”  So, she obviously wasn’t reaching out to an old friend just to talk about things, she just wanted him to know off the bat that she was single again. He just kind of ignored it & talked to her about how excited he was that I was coming down to visit him in AZ that summer & was going to get to meet his family & how we were going on a mini trip to the Grand Canyon.  I bet that shut her up.  So irritating.

OP in your case, I’d agree with PPs that the actual content of the message is pretty harmless, but the “poetic style” she wrote it in & the underlying tone of the message, make it seem like she has ulterior motives.  But, your guy ignored it & told you about it right away, so he obviously doesn’t care to reconnect with her in any way, and respects your discomfort with her, too.  You’ve got the ring & what sounds like a great guy, so I wouldn’t be concerned at all!

Post # 131
54 posts
Worker bee

I can completely relate…. an ex-girlfriend of my Fiance called around until she found where he worked just to tell him that she is getting married. My Fiance told her he is too, and he said she cried on the phone!!!! wth

Post # 132
6 posts
  • Wedding: January 2014


Try reading ‘I Hate His Ex’ by Alex Moore. I’ve just read it and it has really help me sort out loads of problems within my relationship. It is definitely worth a try! 

Post # 133
10 posts

I’m in the same boat sista’. My Fiance’s ex messaged him with her # and said to call her. I checked later and saw he replied to her saying “I’m sorry, but I love _____, and it’s disrepectful to her that you’re writing me”. He said something along those lines. Then SHE wrote back with a bogus excuse, saying that her “friend” wrote him off her profile instead. She said that to save face and not look like an idiot because he turned her down. LOL But we all saw through that 😉

Post # 134
1697 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I said this on another thread but UGH SOME people.

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