(Closed) FI's facial hair in "poor taste"?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Is stubble in poor taste for the wedding?
    Yes, he should be clean-shaven. : (3 votes)
    2 %
    Yes, he should have a neat, trimmed beard. : (27 votes)
    18 %
    No, stubble is fine if the bride and groom think it looks good. : (115 votes)
    78 %
    Other. : (2 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 3
    1710 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

    I myself prefer Fiance clean-shaven in general (and he has to anyway for the military) so that’s how he’ll be for the wedding.  But if you two like the way it looks, I think that’s how you should have it.  🙂

    Post # 4
    5400 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I think this is between you and him. I think neat stubble might be better than a full beard, just because you can see the person’s face much better. I think you want to be able to see your face clearly in your wedding pictures, but stubble is fine IMO. 

    Post # 5
    4047 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    I love my guy with a couple days worth of stubble. He’s fine clean shaven, but I adore the facial scruff. We could go either way.

    Let your guy decide for himself, but it doesn’t hurt to let him know you love his stubble and would love it on the wedding day, but it’s his choice.

    Post # 6
    8444 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I LOVE my FI’s beard, and I think he looks amazing with just a bit of stubble.  He loves it because he doesn’t have to shave everyday lol.  I wouldn’t want him any other way on my wedding day.  I think this should be between you and him.

    Post # 7
    65 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    We are in the same situation.  I left it up to the future hubs.  It’s his face, I love his heart.  Face, just a bonus.  Plus, his facial hair is sometimes an expression of his personal style or mood, so I kinda view it as a fashion accessory for him. Smile

    Post # 8
    10366 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    It’s his wedding day. Not his mother’s. Nobody’s mother should be dictating what facial hair they have…

    Post # 9
    9181 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

    Oh man, I say WHO CARES what anyone else thinks?!  It’s his face, and you are the one marrying him.  You want to marry the guy you love, not some guy with a weird face who’s trying to look “appropriate”.

    My FI’s facial hair is exactly the same as you describe – often a beard, my favorite is the shorter trimmed stubble, and I HATE clean-shaven.  To be honest, I would laugh in anyone’s fact who tried to tell him/us how he should shave for the wedding.  Yikes, I can’t believe they’re honestly trying to dictate this!

    (PS – maybe look through wedding blogs to find lots of pictures of “classy” weddings with bearded grooms, to show them to prove your point?  But it’s ridiculous to have to defend this!)

    Post # 11
    766 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I’m on Team Beard. HUBBA HUBBA! My Fiance has a baby face when he’s clean shaven…he’s only gone clean shaven twice in the almost 5 years we’ve been together. It’s always shocking to me when he does it. When he’s stubbly it’s very hard to kiss him so I prefer the beard. I think he does as well…makes him feel all manly and shit. Weirdo.

    Post # 13
    382 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Personally, I think if he normally has a beard or facial hair of some kind, it would look odd if he was clean shaven.  I feel like I’d look back at the pictures and think that he doesn’t look like himself.

    Post # 14
    4031 posts
    Honey bee

     My Fiance can grow a beard in a day (no kidding, he grows hair fast, they called him man chest in middle school)!

    Anyway, my Fiance hasn’t been fully clean shaven in over 5 years. He is an Operations Superviser and keeps it trimmed and professoinal, so it’s obviously fine in the business world. I prefer my guy with facial hair, so that’s what we are going with on our wedding day!

    Post # 15
    5660 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @AnAppleA_Day:  there’s absolutely no rule that says thou shalt not have facial hair on thous wedding day. you want to look like yourselves and be comfortable and if he feels most comfortable and like himself with facial hair he should do that! Plus no one wants a razor burned itchy face. Ever. 

    Post # 16
    955 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Your fiance’s facial hair sounds quite a bit like my husband’s facial hair.  


    Honestly, if someone (whether it be the parents or whomever) said he should shave for the wedding day I would have simply said “I’ll let him know.  I’m sure he’ll take it under consideration.”


    **That’s pretty much what I tell either mother when they offer too much unsolicited advice.

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