(Closed) FI’s family inviting hardly anyone – advice please!

posted 9 years ago in Family
Post # 4
5117 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I am your husband. Lol.

If he’s comfortable with the guest list and fine w/ the family vs friends #s, then I wouldn’t read too much into it. I haven’t seen some of my aunts/uncles/cousins in years, so they’re not invited, while Mr.ND’s dad’s niece and her 4 kids and husband are invited. Their side just loves all their family, and that family’s family, etc etc infinity 🙂 “My cousin ‘X'” could actually mean my 2nd cousin once removed by marriage to them, but they treat them all the same. I’d rather have my 6 spots for close, supportive friends (and I’ve got just as many to match all of Mr.ND’s family invites). It’s just a personal preference and the level of relationships and bonds I have built with friends.

As long as you aren’t fighting over the numbers and you’re both understanding of the fact that you have different wants when it comes to support on the big day (family vs friends), I think it’s all good. I totally get his approach to it…I’m not bothered if my side isn’t full of family, I’d rather have it filled with friends that are like family to me.

Post # 5
7582 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I think it’s pretty normal. DH had 40 guests to my 80. If he doesn’t feel bad about it then niether should you.

Post # 6
389 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I think it’s a little weird not to invite them!  Both my brothers didn’t invite all of my cousins and I didn’t like it.  Maybe there’s some family drama going on behind the scenes that you don’t know about?  In the end it’s his family and if he doesn’t feel like having them there, then don’t push the issue.  He must have his reasons.

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