(Closed) FI's family keeps calling me by his ex wifes name. Suggestions

posted 6 years ago in Names
Post # 3
2204 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Idk if I would switch to my middle name. It sucks they keep slipping but practice makes perfect! They’re going to have to get used to you and your name!

Post # 4
3769 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

Ugh that would definitely irk me… if you are okay with them using your middle name then by all means sure, but if not, I agree with pp, they have plenty of time to get your name right, just keep correcting them!

Post # 6
2543 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Ugh, that sucks. I used to get that from my ex’s family too – his ex was named Shelly and I’m Kelly (like you) – I got called Shelly a lot.

Honestly I just let it go, and eventually when I was around for a while it stopped.

Whoa – just read the part about your Fiance calling you her name, yiiiikes. Hope he felt like a big dummy for that one! At least they’re all apologetic, it really does sound like honest mistakes, sometimes brains just do things like that.

Post # 7
496 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 1993

@TexasSpringBride:  I think it is a good idea to go with your middle name if it bothers you a lot. Everyone will eventually get used to it.

Post # 8
535 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I would understand how and why it would bother you, but if it were me I wouldn’t go by my middle name I would just try to tough it out. After they say it they are realizing it and apologizing so I have faith that after a while longer they will get it right.

Post # 9
1860 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Wear a big huge giant nametag whenever you are around them and then just point to it and smile whenever they screw up. 

Or maybe carry a big foghorn thing and blow it when they call you the wrong name. They’ll be so scared for you to blow that thing in their ear, they’ll never make the mistake!!!


Post # 10
991 posts
Busy bee

My Future in laws slip and call me FI’s ex gf’s name.  They were together for 5 years and I guess old habbits die hard.  FI and I joked that I should wear a name tag 😉

I think you just have to give it time, eventually they’ll get used to it!

Post # 11
665 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

That sucks. I’m sure with time they will stop. I’m glad you don’t take it personally 

Not that your Fiance has to but has he said anything to his family? I’m wondering if he says anything it might make things awkward. It’s probably better to just let this pass and soon enough this will be an issue of the past. Although I do understand why you feel the need to vent about it. Good luck!

Post # 12
687 posts
Busy bee

I wouldn’t go by your middle name. Since your names are so similar it’s understandable that they’d mix it up from time to time. Next time they call you by ex-w’s name, just remind them politely and say “You mean Kelly, not Kerry!” It will take a little time but they’ll get it straight, but if you don’t correct them they may not even be aware of what they’re saying.

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