Post # 1
We had originally agreed that I would not have a Bridal Shower because we aren’t doing a traditional gift regisry. We are doing a “honeymoon” registry on ourwishingwell.com
Then my sister/MOH decided she wanted to throw me one so that all the older ladies in our families could “fuss over me”. Because of this, I decided to make a registry on etsy.com for some things I wanted to buy for the wedding anyway. When I told my Fiance this he got really upset and told me I my sister can’t just change her mind about what we already agreed upon.
It wasn’t until the end of the conversation/argument that he decided to tell me the real reason why he didn’t want me to have a Bridal Shower… It’s because none of his side of the family will show up. He says they think they’re a waste of time. This brought me to tears. I don’t understand why future family wouldn’t want anything to do with a fun little party? Now I feel like I’ll end up missing out on the experience.
Should I still have one and potentially be exteremely embarrassed because it will look like his family doesn’t likeme or care about me? Or should I stick to the original plan of not having one to avoid the potentially bad situation, but miss out on the experience.
Side Note: My sister is planning a pretty awesome bachelorette party for me.
Post # 3
I am going through something similar- I want to have an engagement party & FI’s parents don’t think it’s a good idea because their friends are overwhelmed with parties. I have a hard time believing that it is such a bad thing to have another party. I do wonder if you’ll feel overwhelmed from all the events, but if someone doesn’t want to come then that’s on them.
Post # 4
@LoLo0113: Your FI’s parents may change their minds when you actually go through with it.
Post # 5
Not a single member of my husband’s family showed up to my bridal shower and no one thought anything of it or tried to embarass me over it. Just have a fun party with the people that want to throw one for you. 🙂
Post # 6
If someone wants to throw you a party and you want them to- do it! Their attendance or lack thereof only looks bad on them.
Unrelated- do register at a national chain. Most bridal shower gifts are purchased the morning of the shower. If you only register for an online store you will end up with 12 crystal bowls.
Post # 7
Fiance and I had a co-ed shower with all of my family and friends and his friends. None of his family came. Nobody except one of my snarky friends said a word about his family and he got to enjoy the experience. I was also surprised that many of his friends had been to a co-ed shower before and had a good time. Maybe something like that would be a good alternative so that he still feels included?
Post # 8
None of Fi’s family came to my bridal shower except for his mom and sister. No one will make you feel bad about who did/didn’t come. Have the shower and enjoy the experience with those that do come 🙂
Post # 9
Who cares? They’re the ones that look like cretins for staying away, a bridal shower is so much more than gifts and finger sandwiches, it’s a rite of passage, a gathering of support and an exercise in happiness and joy for someone else…if they can’t get behind that there’s something totally wrong with them. Get a cute dress, a hat (it’s like one of the ONLY occasions you can get away with wearing one), some fun shoes, eat some girly food, open gifts, play games and drink champagne punch! It’s all part of it!
Post # 10
I think if you want one you should have it!
Post # 11
I would absolutely still have one and enjoy it! If they think it’s silly, then they will just miss out on the fun! My aunts have been gracious enough to offer to throw one for me, and I’m thrilled! Even if there are 5 people there, my aunts are the queens of party games so it should be super fun. 🙂 ENJOY!