Thank you all for the advice, I really appreciate it.
Unfortunately as far as an update goes, this one is not good. Things have only gotten worse.
After this whole blow up from his dad, Fiance and I had been doing so well we were communicating how things made us feel and the wedge his parents tried to put in between us was not working, we were getting stronger together.
Then Future Mother-In-Law started about a month ago, not answering my phone calls, texts, e-mails, etc. I kinda brushed it off at first as whatever they are busy, but then she was calling Fiance, not calling me, and calling her daugher, but not still returning my phone calls. With e-mails, she would not respond to me, but start a new e-mail and send the information I asked for or question I asked for to Fiance.
I asked Fiance if he could ask her about it. She came up with this whole charade of an eleborate story that was not true. Fiance called her out on it and she went crying to Future Father-In-Law saying she is losing her son to me and I am pushing him away from his family.
Ever since Future Father-In-Law telling Fiance to not marry me, I have not trusted anything his parents have done or said. I have been very leary and will admit I put up a wall if I have to speak with them (which has only been once or twice) but I am really having a hard time not letting this get to me.
Fiance and I got into this weekend, he said you are holding a grudge against my parents. I said I am not holding a grudge, but it is going to take time for me to be able to trust them again and they keep trying to put a wedge in between us, well last night it was starting to work.
Fiance said he is distraught over how he is in the middle, he has me nagging in one ear as he put it, and his parents who he has severly cut communication with.
The big issue is his parents won’t change, we can’t change them, but they expect us, Fiance and I, to apologize, they do not think they have done anything wrong, Fiance says that will be the only way to move past this. He says I can’t reason with people who think they have done nothing wrong, aka he will not talk to them, because he wants them to come to the wedding.
I feel that talking to them about how we want a healthy relationship with them is the best way to go, Fiance has talked to them multiple times about this exact issue and how he feels and has only been yelled at and told that he is an idiot, he shouldn’t feel this way, and on and on.
I mean I am at my wits end, last night I felt like I was putting pressure on my Fiance and felt like I was making him choose, this is not the case I would never want to do this, but how do you talk to people who act this way and for me, I mean why would I want to get treated like this with every single decision I make in my life with my Fiance.
If you have any advice, it would be rgeatly appreciated.
As far as the rehearsal dinner goes, I don’t care what happens at this point, they came back and never apologized for saying this to Fiance, and said we will do a rehearsal dinner, but they have not planned anything.