(Closed) FI’s friend’s wedding sabotaging Father’s Day

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

You made me laugh out loud at “blah blah bitchy blah.” Hilarious.

I am so sorry that you guys have to deal with her craziness. Hopefully it is just temporary wedding insanity and she will chill and get over herself.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School

IDK, personally, I’d be pretty upset if a groomsmen or bridesmaid didn’t come to the brunch the next day…Can’t you just do Father’s Day on the next weekend or something? I understand your frustration with this Groomsmen, I’ve seen your other posts but in this case, I don’t think scheduling your wedding for the Saturday before Father’s Day (which is kind of a nothing holiday) is not inconsiderate and I’m kind of with the couple on this one, that you guys should attend the brunch and then go see your families afterwards…

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

Maybe you have more traditions than I do for Fathers Day but I don’t think thats a “holiday” that people worry about planning around. I’d go to the brunch and hang out with my dad in the afternoon.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Wow, I can’t believe she had the nerve to call up your Fiance and attack him like that!  I don’t think it’s a huge deal that their wedding falls on father’s day weekend (we went to a wedding this past weekend and were still able to celebrate mother’s day) however, that’s because we still had the rest of the weekend–all day Sunday to do so. I think it would be one thing if she kindly called your Fiance to request that you guys attend the brunch and perhaps leave a bit early…that’s probably what I’d do…but calling him and attacking him was inappropriate and rude! I’m glad your Fiance handled it the way he did. I can imagine in most cases, men wouldn’t even know how to respond to someone so irrational.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I agree with trailmix that the date for Father’s Day is pretty insignificant.  I wouldn’t even think to check that my wedding didn’t fall adjacent to Father’s Day.  It’s the sentiment behind that day that counts, there’s nothing wrong with hanging out with dad the next weekend and doing the same thing you would have done on Father’s Day.  The idea is to celebrate your dad – as long as you do that, I don’t think the specific date you do it matters.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

is there any way you guys could attend the brunch and maybe leave a bit early and see your dads in the late afternoon/evening?

i do see your point that the bride didn’t approach it the most mature manner, but being that she is high-strung about weddingtime, i am sure she’s not her usual self either.

hope it works out for the best for all of yoU!

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Ditto what trailmix and LGenz said.

Yeah, she does sound bitchy…but really, their wedding and events are supposed to be once in a lifetime; Father’s Day is every year.

Post # 10
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Helper bee

What do you normally do on Father’s Day?  Would your fathers really be upset if you came over later?

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

oh wow. i only recently figured out that my date is the day before father’s day, and I hope no one’s mad at me for it… I was thinking of putting something in the program listing all the dads attending or maybe just our dads to commemorate Father’s day, but i never thought anyone might have trouble seeing their dads the next day…..

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I guess I have to go out on a limb and disagree. I think Father’s Day is a lot more important than the brunch after a wedding. Father’s Day IS an important holiday. And your FI’s friend and his bride-to-be should be accomodating to people who feel that way.

It sounds like your Fiance has gone out of his way to be helpful with this wedding and that she is ungrateful.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Have you spoken with your families about your plans for that day? I do put a lot of importance on Fathers’ Day, both my family and FI’s family do. I certainly don’t think it’s a ‘nothing holiday’. But, the couple getting married may not or may have a reason for getting married that close to a holiday. One of my friends got married the day before Easter this year but had a very reasonable reason for doing so. The bride was out of hand and should have handled this more tactfully, but needs to understand that people celebrate it differently and pt different importance on it and she should have known that this was a potential issue when they set their date.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I may in the minority here, but I think Kitty and her FI’s response were completely understandable and valid.  Unless Fiance had previously agreed specifically to attend the Sunday brunch beforehand, I don’t think you can be mad at people, GMs or not, that they are going to be with their fathers on Father’s Day.

How close are (or were) the Fiance & the groom? If they see each other all the freakin’ time, I don’t see the big deal.  I generally consider the brunch the next day to be another opportunity to spend time with those who are all together for that one wedding weekend, especially those you don’t see very often.  But if they see each other all the time and he’s fulfilled all of his other Groomsmen duties, I’m not sure what the big deal is. If he’s an old buddy he doesn’t see that frequently, I could see the Groomsmen being upset that he’s not staying.

But nothing excuses her behavior or his.  I know wedding planning is crazy stressful but an apology is definitely in order.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee

I’m shocked that people feel like Father’s Day is a nothing holiday.  If I were in a wedding that had a day after brunch on Father’s Day or Mother’s Day, I wouldn’t be able to attend because of a previous committment – our family celebration of Mother’s Day/Father’s Day.  I think its incredibly rude of the bride to get mad at people when they aren’t able to attend because they’re spending time with their Dad on Father’s Day.

 

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I agree with EmeraldR! Father’s Day is an important day for me and it is also the day that we conclude our annual family reunion. You live hours away so, you have to take the time out to travel. So I understand that going to the brunch will pretty much cause you to miss spending father’s day with your dads.

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