- 5 years ago
Could use a little advice on this one as I am not so great with confrontation…
My fiance has decided on three guys to be in his groom party; his brother, and two good friends from the Navy.
I have six BM’s; my two sisters, and four friends that I have been close with since elementary school.
At first, I discussed with Fiance about the possibility of inviting his one military friend (Airforce) to be in our wedding to even things out a tid bit. He said no because he thinks this guy is annoying at times. I brushed it off, but I reminded him that not only was his friend the first that I met when we started dating (including his friend’s wife and her parents) but we were the only one’s there for the birth of their first and only son. We were by their side with a lot of things, such as the passing of their dog and issues with another mutual friend, but I understood my fiance’s position and was comfortable with that.
Well, as weeks started to pass, I started to notice this annoying trait my Fiance had communicated with me. His friend came over with his wife and their son to visit, which is not out of the norm. But, since Fiance wasn’t there, I was the main conversationalist with them. We were sitting out front and my FI’s friend decided to pluck out my hydrandeas from my garden, rip them apart, and throw them at me while I was talking to his wife about wedding stuff. I told him to stop about FIVE times, and he continued to do it. He must’ve ripped about 6 stems from my garden! Who the hell does that?! I was irritated.
Then, he announces that he has to poop. I told him, “we have three bathrooms, go do your business.” He then continued to ask what kind of TP we have and I didn’t know, so he had this disgusted look on his face as if it would be a brand he didn’t like. What the f***? It’s not like….porta-potty toilet paper, it was a thick paper, but who the hell cares if you have to take a dump that badly? After he went in to take a shit, he decided to take a picture of himself pooping in the mirror and send it to me (no privates, just the chest up…gross) and it was just all around weird.
I finally concluded our “meeting” and after they left, Fiance came home. I told him how obnoxious his friend was that day, and even his wife explained how annoying he’s been lately.
Well, come to find out, my Fiance said that he plans on asking this dude to be in our wedding as a groomsman. Ok…great.
As time passes, his wife hears this information. She has explained to me that she wants to be part of my bridal party. She said (and I quote), “Well since BillyBob is going to be a part of your FI’s wedding party, I should be a part of your bridal party. I mean, you were there for my son’s birth, that makes us pretty close, right?”
Er, we were there because your husband needed coloring books and a McChicken and you asked us to come, we didn’t offer. Also, i’ve only known you for a year. On top of that, what is your son going to do during the wedding?
She continues to text me about, “oooh let’s go dress shopping here,” and “I got you a magazine to look at ideas for Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses.”
This is really nice of her, but I’ve already got my bridal party set – formal invites n’ all.
She continues to push me even though I already posted on FB who my bridesmaids are, and I’ve told her I’m waiting to go dress shopping when my Future Mother-In-Law comes into town and my sister is home with all of my BM’s.
I usually can get the point across, but these people have pretty dense personalities. they’re the kind that even though you thought you communicated pretty well, they still don’t get the point. I’m horrible at being direct and brutal.
Does anyone have advice or experienced something like this?