- 4 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
Bees, I’m bringing this to you now because my family is in need of support. I have come to really believe in this community and that every one of you has a heart of gold. Prayers and positive thoughts would do us a world of good right now.
This is really not easy to post, as I’m an inherently very private person and don’t like to post personal information on public forums, but I feel as if I must in this case.
My FI’s younger brother Eddie is profoundly autistic, unable to speak or truly comprehend when he is being spoken to. He is, however a beautiful and sweet boy who feeds himself, halfway dresses himself, loves to play tag and build with blocks. He is non-violent, although his functioning level is that of a toddler he never lashes out at people when he doesn’t get his way, not even on accident. He is a giant just like his brothers and shys away from most contact, but his best friend is his sister and his face lights up when she walks into the room. He smiles and coo’s at her, playing with her fingers and laughing when he sees her. He has started doing the same with me since I’ve been around, and I was startled one day when he snatched my hand to his mouth and “kissed” it. His sister laughed and said that is how he shows affection.
My FI’s mother recently (in the past couple of years) had to place Eddie in a group home. Their father passed away over a decade ago when Eddie was very small, and she has been taking care of him with only the help of her children ever since. He is a handful as you can imagine a giant sized toddler would be, and she is getting older and recently had to move to a new apartment. At the same time, he became too old for school and they applied for a few day programs, but no one would accept him because of the amount of assistance he needs. If the state is going to cut a check for the same amount regardless I suppose they would rather take on the kids who are less work.
After a very difficult transition time where he was temporarily hospitalized, they finally found what they thought was a great group home for Eddie, after his brothers pulled a few strings to get him accepted. My FI’s mother visited religiously, as she was heart broken that she could no longer care for her baby.
One day she went to visit Eddie and discovered raw burn marks on his body. She called 911 and had an ambulance take him to the hospital to be examined. It was then that she found out that he had been seen by doctors two days prior for the injury and that the staff at the group home had attempted to cover up the incident. After she demanded a police investigation it was determined that one or more of the staff had used a heated potato masher to repeatedly burn him, causing multiple 3rd degree burns.
This is the article that was released yesterday:
Because Eddie can not speak for himself, we are told that a criminal case can not be pursued. The statute of limitations to file charges, from what we understand, is one year. That is coming up in less than two weeks, and it seems that the people responsible are more than happy to let it pass. Desperate, my FBIL’s lawyer has advised the family to present their case to the media and file a civil suit in hopes of gaining more interest in the case.
Today my FMIL is supposed to be meeting with the local news for an interview. She was nearly in tears and so nervous trying to think of what to say. I advised her to let everyone know that is could be their son, or grandma, or brother or aunt. God forbid my FI could be in a car accident one day and have to be placed in a program where he could be cared for, and the same could happen to him. Could you live with the fact that the person who tortured your loved one gets off scot free? That just because caring for him/her is a burden, that the state run programs could reject or even abuse him/her without consequence?
We have heard ugly comments judging the family for putting him in a state-run home in the first place, however not everyone has the luxury of caring for their loved one in-home. Comments like this point to an ugly truth; abuse of the dependent has become not only overlooked but anticipated and rationalized.
Once again I would like to ask that you keep us in your thoughts and prayers as the next couple of weeks unfold. Also, if you would please encourage others to take a look at the story, perhaps we could generate enough attention to have our case taken seriously.